Some months back, I told my boyfriend of two years to let us cool things a bit in spite of the fact that he was the most loyal, honest and caring man I’d ever met. I had just met someone else then who swept me off my feet. He wined and dined me and I was in seventh heaven until I came crashing down when he moved on to another relationship.

I’ve been with my partner for almost eight years. He is a fairly successful businessman and was married twice. His two wives don’t live with him.

I recently found out, through a colleague in his office, that my husband of almost 20 years has been sleeping with prostitutes. According to this colleague, some of them call at the office and he takes time off to take them to motels.

BUKKY was busy giving the big bedroom a long overdue clean. She was running the vacuum cleaner over her husband’s side of the bed when the flex caught the corner of a partially opened drawer. It had been loose for months and Mati, her husband, hadn’t come round to fixing it yet. As she crouched to free the flex, something shoved amongst the odds- and-ends in the drawer caught her eye. A long brown envelope of the type school reports came in. Whose report could this be? She opened the envelope and saw the surname was her husband’s, but the first name was none of their five children.

The Adrenaline Junkie: If he’s addicted to the rush excitement, not only will you spend all your time watching from the side lines waiting for him to return from his latest adventure, there’s the pressure of constantly delivering his kicks in the bedroom, knowing if you don’t, he’ll just get his thrill from sex on the side.