Ten years on, I’m a different person to the one I would have been had she not died. And while deep in your soul you miss the person every day, the intense pain gets less with time – either that or you understand it more and live with it – but that itself is very comforting. You have to accept and assimilate the effect of your loss into your life. Only then can you start to deal with it….”

‘If your aim is to make him forget his PC for a while, then point him to reputable cyber cafes or drape yourself seductively over his PC!’

IT might not have been heard of a few decades back, but house-husbands are quietly creeping into a lot of matrimonial homes – thanks to women landing super executive jobs that pay mega salaries; and the spate of job losses caused by the current recession.  For the hard-working female executives, house-husbands seem to be the […]

By Bunmi Sofola Separation has often been a bitter pill for children involved in the heart-wrenching decision to swallow. A few years ago, Claire’s parents decided to separate after almost 20 years of marriage. “My father had always made it known that he abhorred polygamy,” said Claire. So, instead of taking a second wife when […]

A housewife, Salamat Suleiman, has filed for divorce after two months of marriage, due to husband’s health issue.

By Bunmi Sofola When Joshua’s marriage crashed after 22 years, she was so wrapped up in the aftermath of her divorce she paid little attention to her first daughter. Benny, then 21, was so hard-hit by the separation, her life took a downward turn. “It was several years later that the details of her debauchery […]

THE average woman, desperate for a relationship by settling for a married man, soon finds out that such men often cling to their wives. The truth really is that men don’t change as far as their emotions go, and they seldom respect woman who goes to bed with them when they have a wife. Let’s […]

By Bunmi Sofola ‘Most times, lying with my hubby and watching him sleep on his back, beer belly rising and falling with each snore, he doesn’t look appetising in the least, especially with his treble chin and bald head.  I am starting to find him repulsive….’ Melisa looked so forlorn as she told me about […]

By Bunmi Sofola ROSALINE was attending her company’s usual monthly briefing when she was called out to answer a call. “I knew straight away that it would be a distress call,” said Rosaline. ‘The secretaries had strict instructions not to pull any of the sales executives out of a meeting to answer any calls except […]

Dear Bunmi says: ‘Be there for your son. Offer him a safe place from temptations. If your husband doesn’t like it, he’ll be the one to go’

Dear Bunmi says: ‘If you feel you’re about to climax, withdraw, change position or think about something else’

By Bunmi Sofola A few months into a fledging relationship, divorcee Donald was in bed with attractive, much younger partner when she whispered a proposal that punctured the mood. It wasn’t so much as actual demand as a loaded question that had Donald reconsidering the future – not only with her, but about his life […]

“If she’s so devout that things you used to enjoy together are now off the menu, you need to get counselling. If not properly handled, this could put your marriage in jeopardy”

“It’s time to put an end to the pretence. He needs to spell out that anyone who disrespects his wife is disrespecting him”

Dear Bunmi, I’m 28 and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I haven’t even kissed a woman and now I feel that I never will.