DearBunmi,
My boyfriend and I broke up last year and I was heartbroken. He was my childhood sweetheart and we were together for four years. I’m not sure if I’m really over him though I know there is no way for us getting together again.

At 24, I have a lot of life ahead of me and I believe there’s a man out for me. As a matter of fact, I may have met him already. He is someone I’ve known for years and he too had just come out of a relationship.

What started as a friendship has recently turned into something else. A couple of weekends ago, we went on a date and ended up in my place. One thing led to another and we had a really steamy session. We agreed we wouldn’t go all the way, but we were virtually naked.

Before that night, I’d only seen one other penis in my life – and this one was nothing like the first one! How can I describe it? The bit on the end was a lot bigger and wider than the stem. Is that normal?

It might be a silly question but would this affect his ability to have sex? Or to have babies? Since I saw it, I’ve been making excuses to avoid a repeat viewing.

I really like this guy, but if his weird willy is going to be a problem, I need to end it now.
Laura, by e-mail.

Dear Laura,
Well done for believing there is a way forward after the break-up of your relationship. That’s a very healthy attitude.

As for the other thing … you really need to get out more! Like boobs and lady bits, willies come in all shapes and sizes and nothing you’ve told me makes me think there is anything out of the ordinary here. Your guy is as normal as they come – so stop worrying and start having fun!