The first task of the wife is to create an atmosphere for relaxing, a home and a place that is always desired by the husband and the children.  The management of the household is the wife’s primary responsibility, she might get someone to help her in the job where she supervises; it is basically her task to manage the home in the best interests of the family. She may expect some cooperation from her husband, but this should depend on what he can afford to do.  The wife must be contented, and appreciative of any kind gesture her husband may extend to her. The wife should take care of herself in order to appear always cheerful, charming and attractive to her husband. She should always smell good and appear attractively to her husband all the time.

We can heed the advise of an ancient Arab woman who offered a piece of advised to daughter on her wedding day. She said: gO my daughter! you are leaving the home in which you were brought up to a house unknown to you and to a companion unfamiliar to you. Be a floor to him, he will be a roof to you; be a soft seat to him, he will be a pillar for you; and be like a slave girl to him, he will be like a slave boy to you. Avoid inopportune behaviour, lest he should be bored with you; and be not aloof lest he should become indifferent to you. If he approaches you, come running to him; and if he turns away, do not impose yourself upon him. Take care of his nose, his eye and his ear. Let him not smell except a good odour from you; let his eye not see you except in an agreeable appearance; and let him hear nothing from you except nice, fine words.

In other words, the husband is responsible for the protection, happiness and maintenance of his wife. He is responsible for the cost of her food, clothes and accommodation In addition to providing these material needs, he has to be kind, understanding and forgiving, and must treat his wife in a tender and loving manner. It is further recommended that a husband be relaxed with his wife, and cheer her up with humour or by making agreeable jokes. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, in spite of his lofty status, used to play and joke with his wife.  The husband should also see that his wife has sufficient knowledge of her religious obligations and encourage her in observing her devotional duties. He should not be suspicion of his wife activities. Jealousy is indeed a natural element; he should not be provocative or embarrassing.  If the wife becomes pregnant, her husband should display greater consideration for her and should do all he can to assist her a great deal.

It is of supreme importance that the couple handle the matter of sex relations with skill, care and understanding. None should regard the other as an object for personal enjoyment alone but as a partner with whom mutual bliss, satisfaction and fulfilment should be sought. Sexual relations are for the pleasure of both the husband and the wife and for the procreation of children. As a result, nothing offensive or harmful should be done to either person. Each has a duty to be sexually available to the other, but neither has the right to disgust or injure the other. With a few exceptions, the couple can engage in any activities that they like, in any manner and in any position. Allah rewards such activities as surely as He punishes sinful activities. The Qur’an says, “Women are your fields. Go then into your fields as you please.”

The Quran rules that it is forbidden to go into your fields when your fields are bleeding. have vaginal intercourse while a woman is menstruating.  Apart from the spiritual implication, it also has far reaching health implications. All the scholars general agree it is forbidden during a menstrual circle of a woman. And they ask you about menstruation. Say, “It is harm, so keep away from wives during menstruation. And do not approach them until they are pure. And when they have purified themselves, then come to them from where Allah has ordained for you. Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves.” (Qur’an 2:222) Therefore, in Islam the husband and the wife satisfy themselves sexually according to the teachings of the Qur’an.  Although it is a bedroom affair but Allah knows whatever couples do and judge them according to their deeds and their heartfelt intentions.

The best couple will seek refuge in Allah away from the accursed shaytan and pray for guidance in whatever they do. Sexual copulation inclusive. Remember the Quran says: Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish and put forth (righteousness) for yourselves. And fear Allah and know that you will meet Him. And give good tidings to the believers. (2:223)