Now that the season of giving is with us, if you sniff hard enough, you can actually smell the New Year!  The shops are bursting with gifts, despite almost abject poverty, despite the thinness of foreign exchange on the ground.  And the kids are back from school, their expectant, almost accusing looks, tugging at your […]

By Bunmi Sofola Suddenly finding yourself alone after many years of marriage shatters the foundation of your existence.  As well as the pain of a broken heart, you have to deal with the practicalities of separation while trying to remain strong for your children.  With Christmas bounding down the door, the good cheers of revellers […]

By Bunmi Sofola Most of us will probably admit to the occasional little white lie.  But in fact, more than one in three people tell at least one lie every day.  And it turns out that the fairer sex is the biggest fibbers of all.  According to a survey, a shocking four in five women […]

By Bunmi Sofola The hope of every mother is for her eldest child to leave the nest to start university – she also dreads the day it happens,” says Mudia, 51, an executive director of a stock broking firm”. So came the day when I hugged my 20-year-old Matilda goodbye in front of her new […]

By Bunmi Sofola It is believed the thunder seldom strikes twice at a spot but an adage warned that once you’ve witnesses its horror, you would show Shango (the god of thunder) more reverence.  Anyone who has been through the rigours of divorce, battered, bruised and raw, will agree that it is a painfully traumatic […]