Parents who think their children are the greatest!
By Bunmi Sofola RECENTLY, Frieda, the head of a leading private school, lamented that modern parents are praising their children to the hilt and bringing up their daughters as if they can do no wrong. She argued that being showered with too much praise and too many presents is not a good thing for a child […]
Men who need a push to make them complete!
By Bunmi Sofola With many of our men complaining of different types of ‘accidents’ in the bedroom, it is no surprise that the help of what is now termed a ‘sexual surrogate’ could come in handy. The average ‘sexual surrogate’ is not a prostitute but a trained psychotherapist who acts as a surrogate for men suffering […]
Men should learn to look the other way as wives reach for the wallet!
Sadly, a lot of men have had the power rug pulled from under their feet, no thanks to the current economic crunch that’s robbed them of a chunk of their incomes.
It’s not easy adapting to the ‘stranger’ your partner has turned into!
Just how much pain can a person in love put up with? You think you have your priorities sorted out, your principles just so. Then it happens.
When the only reason you stay with a drunk is the money
By Bymi Sofola Ola, Dupe’s husband, now rich – beyond their wildest dreams, has alcohol as his albatross. She doesn’t always know what type of rabbit he’ll pull out of his full magic hat of embarrassments when he’s drunk. The last I witnessed was early this year when the family had a belated New Year party. […]
Handling the ‘in sickness and in health’ of your marriage vows
By Bunmi Sofola DID it ever occur to you that when you stood at the altar and promised to love your husband ‘in sickness and in health,’ that one day you’d be forced to confront the reality of those vows? You ought to. This is life. We’re all going to get old. Some of us may […]
A broken heart could be dangerous to your health!
By Bunmi Sofola Recently scientific research has shown the risk of having heart failure or a stroke doubles in the first month after losing a loved one. The findings add to growing evidence that bereavement doesn’t just increase the risk of depression and anxiety, but can weaken the body’s defences against all types of disease […]
When that ‘dirty old man’ is your dad!
By Bunmi Sofola How would you feel if your dad slept with your best friend? It happens all of the time but it’s no fun when you’re at the receiving end. ‘To say that my father, a great raconteur, often put on a show for my female friends would be an understatement. From the moment they […]
When your daughter’s marriage fails, and she moves back with her kids…
By Bunmi Sofola I had not realised just how valuable my own parents’ presence in my children’s lives would be until I moved back to the family home with them – and brought my three children with me”, said 41-year-old Ijeoma, a pharmacist with a pharmaceutical company. “I now appreciate the wonder of grandparents – they […]
How middle-aged women are pushing up abortion rate!
By Bunmi Sofola IT would be easy to assume that it is young irresponsible girls who are most likely to opt for abortion, but it is, in fact, middle-aged women who are pushing up the abortion rate. Emilia was a divorced mother of three and just turned 40, when she met Chuka, a widower at a […]
Spouses who lose their sparkle when they stopped drinking
By Bunmi Sofola Until recently, Jibola, a 39-year-old accountant was the life and soul of most parties he attended. He would think nothing of polishing off a bottle or two of red wine, then follow it up with whatever booze was available. Then, one day, horrified at seeing a colleague’s daughter’s wedding photographs and how ridiculous […]
