The need to stop equating sex with love
By Bunmi Sofola Some women’s sexual escapades often sound stranger than fiction. Why does a particular woman seek sex all of the time, with different men losing all sense of shame? Abibat’s reason was because she thought she was fat and unattractive. The only way she could have been interested in her was to spread […]
A man who raises his fist to a defenceless woman needs psychiatric help!
By Bunmi Sofola You wake up every morning wondering what ‘crimes’ you’ll commit today, and how your husband will punish you”, Tina, a victim of a violent husband laments. “A punch in the face for asking him for money for the children’s school fees? A slap in the face for saying hello to an old […]
She learnt the hard way she couldn’t mend her parents’ broken marriage!
By Bunmi Sofola Separation has often been a bitter pill for children involved in the heart-wrenching decision to swallow. A few years ago, Claire’s parents decided to separate after almost 20 years of marriage. “My father had always made it known that he abhorred polygamy,” said Claire. So, instead of taking a second wife when it […]
The pain of losing a loved one through child-birth
By Bunmi Sofola IT is impossible to go through the loss of someone you love and not be deeply affected by it. I think I knew when my girlfriend died that I would never be the same again. That my views, attitudes, outlook and philosophy would be different. Ten years on, I’m a different person to […]
Learning to love that man you married once again
By Bunmi Sofola FROM time to time, you run into couples who look so wrong together you wonder what the attraction is. And, there are couples you see and are convinced their union is ordained from heaven. But these assumptions could be far-fetched at times. Take Lisa’s case for instance. She’s been married for four years […]
Subduing a prodigal husband!
By Bunmi Sofola It was a busy time at the office and I’d left specific instructions with my secretary not to be disturbed – except she thought it was absolutely necessary. So, when she peeked tentatively into my office and I scowled in disapproval, she quickly mouthed that Charles, Jade’s husband was at the reception area. […]
