What’s a man’s pride got to do with it when he smells the money?!
By Bunmi Sofola SYLVIA admitted that her parent’s marriage and the stoic way her mummy yielded her position as the first wife to a much younger and ambitious woman prepared her for the way she handled her relationship with men. Her story: ‘When a man suddenly discovered he’s scaled the ladder of success faster than he’d […]
Being a step-mother can be an increasingly thankless task!
Thousands of children live in step-families all over the country as divorce has made fractured homes commonplace. Yet behind the facade of normality, it’s rarely plain sailing. Getting the brunt of the flak is the ‘wicked’ step-mother, Oyinda, a 45-year-old mother of three who re-married a few years ago. Ade, her new husband was a dad of one daughter, Ibi, who was thoroughly spoilt by Christy, her dotting silver-spoon mother.
Warning: An interfering granny can wreck your marriage!
Three days after she had her first child, Halimat’s husband, Doja, brought mother and child home – with Doja’s mother happily ensconce in the family home. “Shortly after we arrived, I put my son in the Moses’ basket we already had ready for him”, Halimat said. “All of a sudden, the sound of my newborn son’s cries filtered through to the living room, stinging my ears and piercing my heart. I rushed to where he was but I was too late. He was already in the possessive grasp of my mother-in-law who’d placed an exclusion zone of fierce grand-motherly love around him, barring all from going near.
How many affairs are you willing to forgive?
Even if there was a blue print for having a healthy relationship, chances are it wouldn’t work for each individual the same way. Man meets woman, a relationship develops and within weeks, you are in seventh heaven. Your man is the ‘soul mate’ you have always dreamt of – you virtually live in each other’s pockets and you can’t stop pinching yourself on how lucky you are.
When failure makes you depressed
We’ve all failed at one project or the other and learnt to move on. But a lot of people have received such mighty failures that they’re just not able to shake off and the depth of despair they feel is difficult to bear. A few years back, Remi, just 24 got married. “Adam and I had been together since I was 19,” she explained.
When you drink for two, your child becomes damaged
Imagine when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump. Such a movement is known as the startle reflex, and the scan described above are from photographs from scans that were taken by Peter Hepper, a professor of psychology at Queens University, Belfast and an expert on the effects of alcohol on unborn babies.
