I will soon be 50 and a lot of my friends keep on giving conflicting meanings of the menopause. My period is now irregular and I suspect I must be starting menopause. My husband has insisted I should let him know when I start as he would not want to make love to me then because traditional chiefs from his village are not expected to sleep with menopausal women. I don’t intend to tell him when I eventually get to that stage but what exactly do I expect?

I never said anything yet to my boyfriend but I think he is obsessed with abnormally large breasts. I always catch him staring at women’s chest. I have boobs that are on the small size and his attitude is making me feel inadequate. Ihave a good mind to ask him if he would rather be with a busty woman!

I’ve discovered that when I’m in a relationship with a guy, I always lose myself. Once I fall in love, everyone and everything else ceases to be important.

Searching for love?

Women going through the menopause often complain they are becoming more forgetful. And an international conference heard recently that there is increasing evidence that women’s concentration levels, memory and ability to carry out tasks drop by as much as 40 percent when they go through the change.