Dear Bunmi, I’ve now met a very responsible man and we are talking marriage. But I have no clue as to how to stay faithful to just one man.

By Bunmi Sofola Mention the words ‘bottom power’ and what comes to mind is the picture of a ruthless ambitious woman, ready to sleep her way to the top.  And it doesn’t matter who with.  Amanda, now in her 40s, was not born poor, so had no excuse all those years for falling for Sam, […]

“But I don’t care. They don’t live with me. I need you to advise me on what to do, but I assure you, Dear Bunmi, I won’t give this man up without a fight!”

By Bunmi Sofola TO re-route male attention south wards from her boobs, Margaret confessed she’s tried wearing baggy black T-Shirts and vice-like sports bras to no avail. A cute and very intelligent computer analyst, she told me recently that: “I’ve tried everything to divert the opposite sex from staring at my rather ample chest. But […]

“Dear Bunmi, I’ve always had strong feelings for her ex. And often used to see him looking at me in ‘that’ kind of way”

OPEN marriages work when one partner, usually the wife, turns a blind eye to her husband’s shenanigans. In most cases, the husband is usually careful not to push his luck by always flaunting his trophies.

By Bunmi Sofola Did you just suddenly wake up one day, look at yourself in the mirror and say: “My God! I’m getting old!” Or did the realisation creep in on you until you just can’t ignore it? Roli, now in her late 50s used to be a model and now runs her own modelling […]

“Dear Bunmi, it’s one thing to be bedding a casual girlfriend, but not a daughter-in-law! She said she loves my son and keen on marrying him”

By Bunmi Sofola MOST people want to meet Mr. Or Miss Right”. Said Jare a 30-year old single mother of one. “Most people in their youth dream of one day making a commitment to one person. When they do, they don’t then leave the marriage because they do not respect it, can’t stand living with an […]

“When our only son turned into drugs, he refused to intervene, leaving me to cope with his rehabilitation”

By Bunmi Sofola WE all have our share of foul-weather friends. But are you one yourself? Your career is grinding to a halt, the man you once termed “the best thing that ever happened to me” has found lasting bliss with another woman and your good friend is driving you insane giving you a blow-by-blow account […]

By Bunmi Sofola It is really amazing how an everyday occurrence suddenly snowballs into a nightmare.  A chance meeting with a friend, and Kayode’s world came tumbling down.  He’d rushed home in the middle of the day to pick up an important file he’d forgotten to take with him when he left for work in the […]

“There is absolutely nothing stopping you from getting pregnant when you have sex, be it your first or your hundredth”

“She never promised anything more than the good times you can give each other. Make the most of it but don’t forget to leave room for a more lasting relationship, if you intend to re-marry”

By Bunmi Sofola EVERY time Ireti visited her mother-in-law, her teeth were always on edge.  Ruth, her mother-in-law is now in her mid 70s, frail and ailing, but as full of spite as when Ireti married her precious son 15 years ago. “Ruth and I had always been at war,” confessed Ireti, “but Gboye, my […]