Escapades of a typical ‘area father!’
By Bunmi Sofola As soon as Terry walked into his lavishly furnished home at his usual time of 8p.m. or thereabout, his wife was waiting for him. His best food was kept hot in the food warmer, his favourite bottle of wine nesting in the fridge. This was late last year when Covid-19 was virtually unheard […]
Is that relationship really worth it?
“After 20 years of marriage, my husband deserted me for a younger woman and caused me deep hurt”, wrote in Davina from Lagos. “He’d given me a big lovely card on our 20th wedding anniversary saying how much he loved me and how he was looking forward to the next 20 years with me. Yet, seven months after that, his torrid affair with a fresh graduate who didn’t want to be an ‘Outside’ wife was blown open. I later discovered that my husband had been unfaithful even at the time he sent me that card. Within months of his affair being blown into the open he’d abandoned his matrimonial home to set up home with his new woman in one of his houses. He had to use the help of the Police to eject the tenants! As to be expected, I felt betrayed and dejected and sometimes alone in spite of our five children.
Relationship: Help, my hubby comes too quickly
After only five years of marriage, my husband seems not to be interested in sex— at least with me! We didn’t have sex before we married for religious reasons, but since we’ve been together, he’s avoided getting intimate.
This is bound to boost the male ego!
Did you know that during orgasm, most of the brain shuts down? That with orgasm, raised levels of what are called the cuddle chemicals – oxytocin and vasopressin – lead to feelings of satisfaction and attachments? A study has found that women who regularly receive semen vaginally are less depressed than those who don’t says Helen Fisher, PhD, author of: Why We Love, The Nature and Chemistry of Romancing love. A bit of an ego-booster for men who are forever jealous of the role that dreaded vibrator is playing in their lover’s life!
Spot the difference
Sex and love being interwoven. Even the Webster’s Dictionary describes lovemaking as the act of courting or sexual activity, and love as a profound tender passionate affection for another person. When you love, you want to protect, nurture and make happy and it is in that context that I see lovemaking. Rape and all these other synonyms can therefore not be described as lovemaking. Sex is different from lovemaking. You can have sex without loving, or being in love with your sexual partner. I have had varied responses from people on this issue and would really love to hear from my readers as well.
How do I stop my parents from fighting?
My parents fight all the time and this is becoming embarrassing. I cannot invite my friends to my house when my parents are around because it really bothers me that something can break out between them and you can imagine my shame.
