“A few months back, I entered an enjoyable part-time relationship with a man who lives outside the state. Every few weeks, he comes to Lagos to see me his ‘naughty secret’.”   

By Bunmi Sofola YOU get to a crossroads in your life and the road you decide to take could shape your life for ever – for better or worse.  Some 20 years ago, Jennifer, a dentist, had an affair which broke up her marriage to a man she had fallen in love with since they […]

By Bunmi Sofola New research have confirmed that single women have fewer orgasms, while their male counterparts have the most.  According to one of the researchers, having an orgasm is more like running a marathon than a sprint, but for many women, it is uphill terrain.  That when it comes to orgasms, women are still […]

Most men think they’re great in bed,” observed Jane, a marriage counsellor. “But much as we love our men, a five minute quickie before lights out really doesn’t get the earth moving! It’s not that they lack enthusiasm. They’re just being typical male—always ready for action. The problem is their technique—most of them don’t have any. Foreplay is clumsy and hurried, and as for the s3x, it’s always wham, bam…was that it?

Dear Bunmi, I’ve come to fear for our lives as he’s also been violent whenever I refuse to make love with him. He said he has tried getting help, but I haven’t seen that reflected in his behaviour

FOR years I was involved with a man who verbally and physically abused me. I finally had the courage to leave him but, because of his nastiness, I seem to resent men in a big way and they tend to hurt and use me. I am now in my late 20s and recently met a […]

“Have a social life that is not dramatic and don’t look at men you meet as potential lovers. Flirt with men and try and discover yourself all over again”

Dear Bunmi, I thought she would rebuff me when I eventually had the courage to approach her. But I was quite surprised at her experience. It was, therefore, a delight making love to her

The reason you have judged me even before hearing my full story is that I am a woman. If I were a man, people wouldn’t be carrying all kinds of rumours. It is true that I am pregnant and true that the person who owns it is my son’s friend. But be honest with me, if I were a man, would you come and ask me questions?

Dear Bunmi says this predator knew full well the torment you would suffer as his secret sexual toy, and is happy for your pain and confusion to continue, as long as he can get into your pants.

“At the university, I hooked up with a woman who virtually went to pieces at my slightest touch. My ego was inflated, and I thought I was God’s gift to women”

“Throughout our marriage, he has always asked me to dress more sexily. He’d love me to wear skimpy, low cut tops to enhance my boobs, and tight fitting trousers. He even buys me eye-popping gears when he travels and gets very upset when I won’t wear them”

But it’s simply not me. I’d look silly dressed like a teenager in heat

“Dear Bunmi, I ran into a friend of hers who confessed a few of them had sought the services of some Aristos, aka Sugar Daddies, to make ends meet. I was shocked, to say the least”

As one ages, the battle  to keep young  becomes a bit daunting.  The grey hair keep increasing, so are the frown lines and chin whiskers! 

Dear Bunmi, even with her pregnancy, we continued to have sex until she had her baby girl. She doesn’t look like me. But what if she is mine?