The need to stop equating sex with love
By Bunmi Sofola Some women’s sexual escapades often sound stranger than fiction. Why does a particular woman seek sex all of the time, with different men losing all sense of shame? Abibat’s reason was because she thought she was fat and unattractive. The only way she could have been interested in her was to spread […]
He thinks I’m cheating on him
I’m in a steady relationship with a guy who tends to love me as much as I love him. It is true that every relationship has its ups and downs and in my own case, my guy suffers from occasional distrust. I have never cheated on him but he feels that I am doing so. He gets upset that sometimes my vagina is looser than other times. He thinks I’m cheating, but I’m not. I don’t know about my vagina being looser at certain times but I’m sure I have never cheated on him. What’s going on?
Breast cancer: Could you count on your partner’s support?
BAFFLED by the recent spate of deaths due to cancer, I asked a medical doctor friend why cancer had become so prevalent. “It’s been around for ages,” he told me, ‘people only call it by different names, and some were comfortable referring to the ailment as due to supernatural forces rather than to a rational explanation.” In a country where most men are fixated on the boobs, what position does a breast-cancer survivor find herself in her partner’s affection? Does the “In sickness and in health” vow hold true here?
I love s3x but I don’t want anything serious
I love s3x but I don’t want anything serious. I am a woman of 28 and have gone through a lot in life to build myself. I am a working student and I train myself. Basically, I don’t have time for any relationship and because of that, I have hurt a lot of people. You have so much information and advice for those who want to start, maintain, or end a relationship; but then there are people like me. In fact, I have no desire to be in a relationship with anyone.
I’m done with this guy
I have been dating my guy for five years but things are not working out as they should. We have been having conflicts . I don’t think that I love him anymore! My friends think I should take things easy and give the relationship another chance but I’m confused. What should I do?
Affairs with married women are not as ‘safe’ as men think – Reader
FROM time to time, I get letters from you readers that are so interesting that I feel I ought to share them with the rest of you. A few days back, a letter simply signed “Iyabode” popped up on my e-mail and I couldn’t help chuckling to myself as I read it. She wrote: “Dear Bunmi, I am one of the regular readers of your articles in The Vanguard every Sunday, and I do not even know how fully I can express my feelings about your articles. If I may tell you, they have really improved my lifestyle and I always make copies available to friends whenever the need arises.
