By Bunmi Sofola WILL spousal violence ever go away?  Two readers sent in their views recently.  One is a married mother of three and the other is a bewildered husband who’s been physically and mentally abused by his wife.  “My husband and I were together for nearly ten years,” wrote Ibi, “and he was a violent […]

By Bunmi Sofola WHEN it comes to first kisses, scientists agree with those who believe in love at first sight, happy endings and the power of that first glorious embrace.  That’s because, Scientists say, a kiss is much more than just a way of saying you fancy someone.  It’s an efficient means of working out if […]

By Bunmi Sofola IMAGINE when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump.  Such a movement is known as the startle reflex; and the scan described above are from photographs from […]

But what really is your problem here? You know there is an age gap and he’s obviously had other relationships over 20 years ago.

By Bunmi Sofola How do you spot a love rat?  The current man in your life has virtually swept you off your feet.  He texts you all day, takes you to your favourite eatery from time to time, boys you little gifts and calls you at night because he can’t stop thinking of you!  The first […]

Dear Bunmi, the reason why I’m apprehensive is that a lot of our friends who got married have already split up and I’m scared stiff

He was shopping around for a woman who could give him more children.As luck would have it, I got pregnant last year

By Bunmi Sofola As Nikky made her way to her office that fateful Monday morning, she saw a group of some female members of staff clustering round the photo copiers and chattering excitedly.  When they saw her, the silence was eerie, and instead of scurrying off to their seats, they looked at her with defiance. “I […]

By Bunmi Sofola FROM time to time, you run into couples who look so wrong together you wonder what the attraction is.  And, there are couples you see and are convinced their union is ordained from heaven.  But these assumptions could be far-fetched at times.  Take Lisa’s case for instance.  She’s been married for four years […]

By Bunmi Sofola When Ibidun hit the menopause, her erratic behaviour became irritating and unbearable to Peter, her husband.  She was 48 and a mother of four grown-up children.  A normally bubbly woman, she became testy, snarling and crying most of the time.  “Whenever I tried to find out what the matter was, she shoved me […]