The need to stop equating sex with love
By Bunmi Sofola Some women’s sexual escapades often sound stranger than fiction. Why does a particular woman seek sex all of the time, with different men losing all sense of shame? Abibat’s reason was because she thought she was fat and unattractive. The only way she could have been interested in her was to spread […]
When revenge could be therapeutic!
By Bunmi Sofola HELL might have no furry like a woman scorned, but some have found ways of making the pain more bearable by seeking revenge. When Rele moved in with her boyfriend of 18 months, she was ecstatic. But, I warned that living together seldom lead to marriage. That where it did, the marriage […]
Dear Bunmi, she has been faking it!
Dear Bunmi, as you can imagine, I’m still reeling from the shock!
My ex turned my life into a non-stop deliverance service
By Peju Akande The air inside the house always smelled of burnt onions and bleach, a sterile, sharp mixture he used to clean the floors every Saturday morning until the terrazzo gleamed like the surface of a fresh grave. We live in a culture that treats endurance as a spiritual currency, especially for women, telling […]
There is so much police can do to tackle under-aged sex
By Bunmi Sofola JOKE, a secondary school teacher married to James for close to 19 years tried not to raise her three children the way she’d been raised. “My father was very authoritarian and we were all in awe of him He was such a bully that mum dared not cross him. Prospective girlfriends and boyfriends […]
Husbands who believe wives bring out the violence in them!
By Bunmi Sofola WILL spousal violence ever go away? Two readers sent in their views recently. One is a married mother of three and the other is a bewildered husband who’s been physically and mentally abused by his wife. “My husband and I were together for nearly ten years,” wrote Ibi, “and he was a violent […]
