By Ayo Onikoyi

Nollywood actor, producer and human rights activist, Yomi Fabiyi has taken a stand on domestic violence, unequivocally stating that beating your lover turns him off.

In a WhatsApp Broadcast shared with Potpourri,  the actor advises that couples should divorce or separate the moment violence creeps in.

“I suggest immediate separation when there’s a physical assault in a relationship.  Beating your lover turns me off. I have never begged a woman whose husband or fiance beats to reconcile. It’s not my thing. I don’t fancy such men (even most claim they got provoked), he writes.

The actor gave a number of reasons for his advice, asserting that you don’t hurt what you love.

” The easiest way to find yourself in body bags is domestic violence with partners. Thirdly, if kids are involved, it will destroy them. It is serious abuse. Only a small fraction of such children will grow not to believe violence, torture, etc, are means of solving issues. Fourth, even if you are not caught, your hands will stain with blood, and you are a murderer if you fight/beat to death.

“I would rather you involve the Police immediately if you think your wife or girlfriend exhibits traces of violence or provoking you to turn violent. Self-control is key. Anger is controllable. Just act lawfully before you become a criminal. Don’t give that partner the chance to provoke you that you turn into a beast or woman beater.

“If you indulge violence and think involving the police is extreme, the moment you start trying to defend yourself and things go south, then you will realize the Police will involve you, prison will embrace you and the very people you are considering will turn their back on you.

“Violence will never produce love. Most lovers who make up after violence are hoodwinked, motivated, or controlled by something else but definitely not love. Love, don’t stay where it is tolerated. Love, don’t grow where it hurts.

“Marriage is not for everybody. Only a few go through proper home training lately. More parents are on social media than in the lives of their children and teenagers. These wards, too, are on several toxic and criminal blogs every minute they are awake. These blogs raise and mentor these kids. The percentage you invest in raising your child will be commensurate to how you benefit from the same child,” he explains