By Janet Adetu
Wishing all our children a Happy Children’s Day!
Everyone is in a hurry busy chasing their self –interests. Nobody has dedicated time anymore. The kids are feeding of 21st century technology and have become so antisocial. The impact is so much rudeness everywhere you turn. The big question is how do we raise polite children in an uncivil world? I have thought of ways this can be done, enjoy your reading:
Tips on raising a polite child
- Demystify what Manners are:
Manners are a way of behaving that is expected of you, which shows respect for others and proper conduct. Teach your children what standards you want in your household, classroom, campus, educational institution and make them compliant. Parents give your children a foundation that speaks to good upbringing.
- Meeting & Greeting:
This is a basic activity that should come naturally as an act of politeness. Teach these steps:
(a) Stand up
(b) Keep your head up
(d) Say Hello (Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening)
(e) Address correctly ( Ma, Sir)
(f) Correct eye contact
(a) Say your name
(b) Say something about yourself
(c) Be first to greet
(d) Say goodbye when leaving
- Magic Words
“Manners are priceless but the lack of it can cost millions”
Start with yourself and make magic words a part of your vocabulary. In raising polite children have the following words engaged in their daily conversation skills.
(b) Thank you
(c) Excuse me
(d) No thank you
(e) You are welcome
(g) Yes please
(h) Pardon me
Magic words complete your request for help, permission and favours. Without magic words your request is incomplete. Test your children, ask them how many times they used the word “please” today.
- Conversation Skills
Teach your child to speak up and speak out whenever they are talking or being spoken to. The first strategy is to always look up with direct eye contact, they are traits of a successful professional. Other steps include:
(a) Show interest
(b) Speak clearly
(c) Listen attentively
(d) Respond with confidence
(e) Ask questions
(f) Avoid bragging about themselves
- Helping Hand
Teach your children to always offer a helping hand well before they are asked. When mum or dad look like they could do with help let them be there to assist. Help around the house is always needed. A polite child can ask if help is needed in the kitchen, cleaning the car or cleaning the house.
- Responsible Thinking
Teach your child to be responsible for their actions and to be mindful of the decisions they make. The act of right or wrong in a skill, which takes discipline. With the right foundation and a strong idea of what is acceptable at home and what is not. Hopefully your child will desist from being easily influenced or cajoled into doing what they would not normally do.
- Shake off Laziness There is nothing wrong with domestic help at home to assist you with your children and the welfare of your home. It becomes a problem when your child is completely dependent and reliant on that person, such that they cultivate a lackadaisical attitude to life in general. Avoid situations where a poorly kept room is condoned because the housekeeper will take care of it. Clothes on the floor, wet towels scattered, socks and shoes in disarray is a sign of laziness that can grow out of control. Assign periodical chores that must be performed to instill discipline and proper acts of behavior.
- Table Manners
Teach your child proper conduct at the table.
Basic skills include
(a) Sitting Position
(b) Use of cutlery
(c) Eating composure
(d) Conversation skills
(e) Being nice at the table
There are dining etiquette skills that professionals can teach your child. These traits bring out the true polish of a child. It has been said that the best place to see the level of panache is by the way they dine. Let your child not be found wanting.
- Niceness & Politeness
The Golden rule is to treat others the way you want to be treated. Teach your children to be their brother’s keeper. Starting with their siblings the act of being nice is a must. It is about feeling free to share toys, information, knowledge and possessions when need be. Being nice to siblings grows into being nice to friends, colleagues, teachers, family members and parents. Stop all attitude that protrude selfishness, greediness, pride or offensiveness. Do not accept growing negativity, as this is the beginning of personality and character identification.
Your child must make that effort to go out their way to be nice and polite. Gracious women and men today think of others as they think of themselves. They stand out from the crowd.
- Bullying Traits
Bullying tendencies start from insecurity and negative self-talk. It can also emanate from bad gossiping behind someone’s back. Teach your child to be content with what they have now and promote their potential to be great in life. The tenacity and drive to succeed should be exhibited in you first; your child will emulate you.
Congratulations to all our children