By Folake Anina
Most people these days spend more time at work that they spend in their homes. Women spend more time with their co-workers than with their friends and family, and today, many women  travel out of station with other co-workers.

This additional opportunity encourages  close relationships to develop outside the normal work environment, and simply expands the opportunities to build close relationships with men at work.  We find out that today, more people are having office affairs than in the past. I guess in the past, the work force was  predominantly male.

Today, there are more women in the workforce than ever before. Although as popular as the workplace is for affairs there are many things to consider before allowing yourself to fall into this trap. An affair can be complicated enough, however, when you add the additional stress of work you may end up with more than you bargained for.

What you perceived to be a fun and exciting adventure could end up distracting you from your work, making your job more difficult. Take the time to consider the consequences before you go into it. We find out that in todays workplace  extra marital affairs are on the increase. The workplace today has become the number one place where people engage in extra marital affairs. The truth is that as wrong as it may seem, it is very rampant these days.

I believe that no one should take steps any how. You must think before you do anything. You don’t just get carried away. You must always consider the aftermath of your actions. Many women who fell into this sin regretted it afterwards. No matter how good it seemed at the time. It more often than not goes sour.

Women should note that  For starters we all agree that no married woman has any business having a sexual relationship outside are marriage, but it is going on. Research has it that ninety percent of workplace affairs go sour. The truth is that an office affair will eventually end and you’ll have to face each other every day. You’ll end up dreading to go to work.

You would be forced to see that person everyday when it goes sour. More often than not, one will get tired of the other, and  will want to move on. Who wants to work in that kind of environment?

Having an office  affair in my opinion is not a wise decision. No matter how you look at it, One office affair that goes wrong could end up so bad that the workplace becomes a place of torment for you, and many have had to leave a job with great prospects because they could not handle the aftermath of the affair they had at work. Although as popular as the workplace is for affairs there are many things to consider before allowing yourself to fall into this trap.

An affair can be complicated enough, however, when you add the additional stress of work you may end up with more than you bargained for. What you perceived to be a fun and exciting adventure could end up distracting you from your work, making your job more difficult.

Take the time to consider the consequences. You can only be sure of the beginning of anything. You never can be sure of how it will end. When an affair ends, or if it becomes a problem in the office, it’s the woman who is likely to lose her job. Even if she is able to keep her job, her peers’ assessment of her as a worker will probably be lowered.

Many women have lost the respect of their co-workers because they were stupid enough to fall into this pit of office romance without thinking. For the most, society frowns more at a woman than at the man in ant instance.

We know it is morally wrong, but let us go into some truths you should consider before getting involved in this sin. What if it all end on a bitter note, and becomes public knowledge, and your children hear about it. How would you feel?

How would the  children feel? If the affair becomes public, as these flings usually do eventually, will you be able to face them when they know what you’ve done? Any respect they have for you as a parent and a decent human being will be seriously diminished. Is anything worth losing the respect of your children for?

You know how much you have put  into raising the children and establishing a home and family. Are you willing to risk losing it all? Every woman to know for starters that any woman who has an affair outside her marriage is breaking her marriage vows.

You must consider the worst consequences if you must do anything. For starters, the person you are having an affair with more likely than not does not want you for more than a fling.

He is not ready for any commitment. He just feels that he is safe because you are married, and he will soon get over the excitement. He will soon be with another woman, and you just would not be able to handle it. So what if your spouse finds out.

Is anything worth throwing away a marriage that you have built with your whole life. It never looks good when it blows open.

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