My ex-boyfriend has an older girlfriend who is pressuring him to move in with her. A few weeks ago, he came to my flat and we had fantastic love-making. Unfortunately, the condom split and he saw how anxious I was as it was during my ovulation.
Thank God I wasn’t pregnant but I was devastated when he didn’t even phone to check if I was okay when my period was due. He said he was too scared to speak to me and that he didn’t feel he could give me what I wanted.
We were great together when we were an item and I won’t want to lose him again but can a leopard really change his spots?
Selina, by e-maiL
You will lose this man again because you don’t have him in the first place. If you’re smart, you will retreat and let his current girlfriend be the one to pressure him. But I doubt if she’ll get him either. His behaviour is trying to tell you what he hasn’t the nerve to say outright — that he is not ready or willing to commit to relationship with anyone right now.
Despite the old saying, spots do change and maybe his will someday. In the meantime, change yours. Find other leopards to play with until this one grows up.