By Pastor Okokon Ating
Be alert to your part-ner’s likes and dislikes: Many couples have not studied their partners’ character in a manner that they could understand their likes and dislikes. Some, in the course of the so called love, do not understudy the behavior of their spo-uses.
Any spouse who does not understudy his/her partner in marriage is heading to a hitch which may result in regrets. The-re is a need for each per-son to go on studying day by day the behavioral partner in order to avoid unnecessary complaints ahead.
What is the likes and dislikes of your partner? Does he or she like to play at all times? Does he/she joke at leisure time or when busy? When does he/she like to sleep? When does he/she like to eat? Is it very early or late in the morning? Does he/she like to take a cup of tea before resuming work in the morning? Does he/she like to bath before eating after returning from the office? Does he/she likes or wants after meal, in the midnight or in the early hours of the morn-ing? Does he/she like sex with light on or in the dark room?
Does he/she like kissing and caressing be-fore sex? Does he/she like crowding and lousy env-ironment? Is he/she the type who likes to give out little or plenty things to someone else? Does he/she a talking type or a quiet one? Does he/she like to follow or accompany one to an eatery or public pla-ces for functions and occ-asions?
When we put all the abo-ve questions together and critically assess them, you will agree with me that marriage is an institution in which one must keep on learning, reading and researching until death. That is, as one grows in marriage, he/she under-stands more the secret of success behind it. May I say this also, that marriage does not only stop at pay-ing the bride price, cele-brating wedlock and living together, but it’s a pro-cess which keeps on going from one circle to another.
As a graduate in level A, he/she needs to go higher to level B probably for ma-turity. This also depends on how fast one can learn and read his/her spouse in order to adapt or adj-ust where and when nec-essary.
People who quickly opt out of their marriages do so because they failed to understand the likes and dislikes of their spouses. That likes and dislikes may be little things which one could have solved and go-tten them straightened out but because they are ignorant of each other’s likes and dislikes, the issues got blown up with-out restriction.
Be alert at all times in or-der to know how to arrest flimsy situation in your marriage. If couples want to maintain their marria-ges, let them be sensitive to those challenges ment-ioned above which seem not to be factors at all dissolving marriages. All the areas in which quest-ions are asked are challen-ges which throng on marr-iages heavily on a daily basis.
One may not know that they are serious threats which weaken the strength of love in marriage.
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