By Abuu ‘Aasim Muhammad Bin ‘Uthmaan, Kano
SUBSEQUENTLY and consequently it is sinful to be proud, pompous or braggart just because of what you think yourself to be. 1.In the light of this, there is a Hadith transmitted by Abuu Daawuud in his Sunah which says:
“Allah has removed from you the dent of the days of ignorance and being proud of parental origins: a pious believer and a wretched wayward (are all the same in origin) you are sons of Adam and Adam was from dust; let some men desist from being haughty/condescending for their ancestors who were but a charcoal out of the charcoals of the hellfire, else they will end up more despised in the eyes of Allah than the scarab that throws away stinking objects with its nose!!”
In the light of the foregoing therefore, Adam and Hawwa’u- ‘ala’yhimas Salaam- are for the sake of emphasis- the origin of all human families.
Keeping Family ties intact
Nothing explains this subtitle than the saying of Allah: “So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship?” “Those [who do so] are the ones that Allah has cursed, so He deafened them and blinded their vision”
Negative and lamentable reality
Another Aayah says: “And give the relative his right, and [also] the poor and the traveler, and do not spend wastefully”. The Aayah here says: “and give…” here mentioned in this Aayah is of obligatory status owing to this golden principle referred to here. Secondly, your relative is prioritized by being mentioned first before others looking at the sequential flow of the Aayah
This is another important point talking about the necessity of keeping these ties intact.
The necessity and indispensability of keeping such ties intact can scarcely be overemphasized. This is because if the children for example are not shown the value and importance of keeping these ties, there are ugly chances of the same children growing up being cut off from their ancestral root. A lot of people in diaspora- as an example- risk having such a negative and lamentable reality sooner or later unless the ties are dutifully kept and maintained.
By way an apt illustration, the wild life is very conscious in its characteristic way in keeping the family bond of relationship and ties by coming up in group to shield itself against a predator. The same can arguably be said when you look at the school of fish in the water. The predatory shark is disappointed by a potent and divinely bestowed shield formed by smaller species of fish forming one family and maintaining its ties for their mutual benefits in the face of an imminent danger.
These are fishes!! What of the humans??!! Yes again, even human societies do- from time to time- form a kind of ‘family ties’and keep same for achieving negative and reprehensible purposes and goals. The colonial masters, for instance, had to sit under Otto Von Bismarck the then German chancellor during the so-called Berlin West Africa Conference, also called the Berlin Conference, meeting of representatives of 14 European countries and the United States between 1884 and 1885 to deal with matters relating to European trade and territorial claims in Africa.
It was a nefarious and inhuman agenda that set the ball rolling towards colonizing the African continent. Yet in the process, they had to be together as one family of vultures hovering around a carcass that was later mercilessly eaten up!! They did maintain ties for that. If it became a necessity for them to keep those ties albeit momentarily for achieving their aims and objectives in colonization, a Muslim and indeed a truly practicing Muslim should maintain and keep his bond of family relationship in order for him to have Allah’s endorsement and pleasure.
Aayah 54 of Surah 25 on how Man is configured on family based ties.
“It is He who created the human being from water, then invested him with ties of blood and marriage, and your Lord is all-powerful”
This Aayah outlines the structural reality found in the human nature when it comes to issue of relationships. It says: “…then invested him with ties of blood and marriage”, in other words man is naturally tied by the rope of human fraternity through blood relations and marriage. You and I are either someone else’s son, daughter,grandson, granddaughter, farther, grandfather son in law, daughter in law father, grandfather or husband and wife.
When the Glorious Quran talks about the number of women forbidden for a Muslim to marry, 15 women are mentioned in three verses consecutively . In the firstAayah, Allah The Exalted says: “And do not marry (of women) those married by your fathers save that which went by for it is -of certainty- an act of abomination, disdained and evil as a way (of living)”
In the second, HE-’azza wa jalla- says: “Forbidden for you are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father’s sisters, your mother’s sisters, and your brother’s daughters and your sister’s daughters, your foster- mothers, and your foster- sisters, and your mothers- in- law and your step daughters under your guardianship (born) of your wives unto whom you have gone in- but if you have not gone in unto them, then there is no sin on you (to marry their daughters) and the wives of your sons proceeding from your loins and also to having two sisters as wives as the same time except for what is past for Allah is Oft-forgiving Most Merciful”
In the third Aayah, The Almighty says: “(Forbidden as well for you) are those women under men as wives……..”
Divinely ordained responsibility
It is therefore a divinely ordained responsibility to guard against causing any form of disaffection and havoc within the ranks and files of one’s own family through blood or marital connection and or the family of the Islamic nation and of course other members belonging to the human race as members of that family in such a way and manner that DO NOT contradict the teachings of Islam as they (the teachings) are.
Steps in keeping family ties through: Knowing and understanding textual bases on maintaining family ties: This refers to relevant verses and a hadith, some of which we have given them here above. Here I will make reference to two narrations only. The first of these narration is a Hadith that says: “Whosoever that wants his provision/sustenance to be expanded for him and his life span extended, let him maintain his relationship”
The second one is: “He will never enter the paradise he who severs his ties of his relationship” Comprehending and appreciating the legal status of maintaining family ties. Simply, the legal status is wujuub or compulsory. It is one out of the five celebrated ordinances of Islamic law and denying its compulsory status is tantamount to kufr or disbelief.
Passionately aspiring to have the rewards for Silatur rahimi and maintaining family ties. The Hadiith in item number 1 quoted above under this subheading on the value of keeping one’s relationship takes care of this segment.
Showing love and sincerity of purpose –ikhlaas– in maintaining one’s family ties, not being pretentious or shedding crocodile’s tears only when members of your family are afflicted. Sustained visits to your loved ones in the family and of course even those you ‘do not love’ as ‘blood is thicker than water’.