By AYO ONIKOYI
Busty Yoruba actress, Foluke Daramola remarried last year amid controversy after her first marriage to her ex-husband, Mr Sobowale crashed. Though, she was accused of being responsible for the sudden collapse of the marriage of a female pastor in the Redeemed Christian Church of God, RCCG, Pastor Olubunmi, as she went ahead to get married to the woman’s husband, Kayode Salako. But in this interview, Daramola, set the record straight, wondering why any man would want to drive away his ex-wife because of another woman. She also explains why they are not in a hurry to have more children.
You recently celebrated one year of your marriage, how has it been?
I can’t just thank God enough for bringing my ‘crown’, Olukayode Ezekiel Salako to my life. He has made me a contented and complete woman.I feel the best I can feel in life, I am very delighted and happy for having one of the best men of our time as my hubby.
In one of your Blackberry posts, you said people could not believe your marriage would last a year: why?
Yes. That was what I posted. The reason for that is simply because of the controversy that surrounded our marriage and another reason is the general belief that celebrities, especially the ladies, don’t sustain their marriages. So, our marriage lasting a year is a sign that haters and critics got it all wrong about us and are shocked and surprised to see us growing stronger everyday.
What’s the difference between this marriage and your previous one?
Firstly, I was very naive and immature in my first marriage. I will say, I was desperate because many of my friends were getting married then and I thought marriage was the ‘in-thing’, so, I guess I didn’t really know who and what I was going into.
But this one is based on spiritual conviction,true love, deep and mature understanding between two adults in love, ready to be together forever. We have both been married before and I guess that helped us to love and appreciate each other.
What do you love most about him?
What I love about my hubby most is his generosity,his heart and the fact that my husband is very clean in all he does. My hubby doesn’t do shady deals or things that would not dignify a responsible man, and Kayode has conscience in all he does. He’s the definition of the kind of man I will love to have in my life again and again.
He’s also a very intelligent and hard-working young man and he’s an expressionist. When you offend my hubby and he’s upset with you, he just spills it out and that’s it, he will even forget you guys ever had issues in a matter of hours.
Though Kayode can assert himself sometimes like most men do or tend to nag but in all, I thank God because he’s very kind-hearted and a good man.
Our readers will want to know how you and Mr Salako met and got hooked?
We never started out as lovers. We are both activists,my platform is called AARA, Action Against Rape in Africa,and he runs Fasholamania platform and Change Agents of Nigeria, he was just starting Change Agents of Nigeria and he needed a popular face to identify with the platform and I was introduced to him by a casual friend of both of us that knew what we both do in activism. We met and we discovered we have a lot in common, and the rest is history.
There is, or was a general notion that he chased his wife away because of you?
It’s not something I want to discuss, because my husband has told me sternly not to discuss his former marriage on the pages of newspapers. He’s capable of marrying more than one wife if he so wishes, so, I don’t see how or why he has to chase his wife out for me.
Besides, did he chase her or she left of her own volition? or then, should I say the person my ex hubby is married to chased me out of my former home as well? Well, I decided to walk out of my former matrimonial home for personal reasons.
I don’t know much about my hubby’s ex wife’s issue, he is in the best position to talk about that, though, sadists and people that are just out to look for people to join them in their misery will always want to drag my name in what’s not my business and can never be my business.
My hubby is very capable of taking care of his personal business and he is doing that to the best of my knowledge. He has a perfect relationship with his ex and his children and we have a wonderful relationship too,so people should just mind their business and leave us alone.
Are you going to have more children after your own two kids and your husband’s children?
We are both not in a hurry, because we have five already; my hubby has three and I have two and they go to quite expensive schools. We are not under any competition for kids, even if we are going to have kids, it’s not an immediate plan,it will be later when we are both good and ready for it. For now, our focus is to give the ones we have quality lives and expand our businesses and do our humanitarian works which we believe very much in. Furthermore, I have to further my education with a doctorate degree.