By Folake Aina
What you are is actually the result of the choices you make. Think about it.Â A personÂ chooses the wrongÂ career, that person is done for. Someone gets married to theÂ wrong guy, that is trouble.
Some choose to get educated, and others turn to the wild life and doing drugs. They donâ€™t have to complain when others are flying and making waves in life and they end up a non-entity in a mental institution. We can go on and on real life scenarios of what our choices to us and make of us. It is important for every woman to realize that you just cannot do things anyhow.
I believe that everyone gets to a place where you know that even if you do succeed in fooling the whole world, you cannot fool or deceive yourself. If no-one else knows what you want, one person who knows exactly what you want is you. Therefore, it is of utmost importance thatÂ you make choices that back up your desires.
You might be telling the wholeÂ world one thing, and you know deep down that it is the exact opposite thing that you really want.
Today, I want to encourage every woman to be realistic about what she really wants in life, and go for it. Most people believe they have forever to do everything and anything they want to do. So deep down their favourite word is â€œsomedayâ€ or â€œwhen the right time comesâ€ .
The right time to start anything is now.Â So, you make up your mind if you want to get married or you really want to be single. Do not carry on like you love your single life when of a truth you know that what you really want is to get married.
You know there are some people who have looked into the marriage business, and have decided that marriage is not for them.
If you are one of those, then focus on what you really want instead of fooling around with everyone and wasting everyoneâ€™s time giving them the impression that you are ready for marriage, when you really know you are not.
If you know that what you want is prosperity, be focused on it. Work hard and make up your mind
to do it right and not settle for mediocrity. The problem with most people is that they really do not know what they want out of life. They do have an idea, or they have too many options, and they end up being less that what they were destined to be in life.
Do not think thatÂ today I amÂ encouraging people to be single, since you know I am a great advocate for marriage. We have already established the fact that no matter how, not every one will end up married. So does that mean if a person is not married she is useless or that the persons destiny is over?
I want to tell you that , you can be single and not lonely. You can be single and not empty. And if you do want to get married, you can. You donâ€™t have to be embarrassed and feel useless because you are not married. Being single is not a curse.
You canâ€™t be so hooked up with the fact that you have to get married that you have totally lost lifeâ€™s worth? My advice is live one day at a time, giving your best to your life, and maximizing your moments, tomorrow will take care of itself.
Never get to a place where you give up and think you are too old, and nothing good can happen to you. Donâ€™t let the fact that it has not happened make you lose your self esteem. There is so much more to life.Â Know that you have been fearfully and wonderfully made.Â It is not only t marriage that I am dealing with today.
What I am trying to say is, whatever you want to do or be, just go for it. Always go for gold. Never settle for less.
If you have not started anything, now is a good time to begin. It is never too late. That much I can guarantee. I have always told youÂ that no matter how it looks, everyone is already equipped with what it takes to succeed.
The first thing you want to do today, and I think that is a great way to start is to make up your mind that you wouldÂ maximize and enjoy the totality ofÂ your being..
It is a choice. For anyone to succeed at anything, the attitude must be right. You mustÂ be happy the way you are , you must be happy with whatever you are doing, and make up your mind to be the best at it. Whatever you want to achieve, focus on it and know you will get there.
If you donâ€™t get there fast enough, do not be discouraged or frustrated , you will get there if you are doing it right and if you do not give up.
The right way to start is to make sure that what ever you have chosenÂ to do, or to be is something that makes you happy, and gives you the contentment and peace that makes life worth living. Go for it. Best of luck.