Monday November 24th, 2014
Monday November 24th, 2014
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Surround yourself with Inspired words

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Empowering, encouraging, uplifting words—a steady diet of them gives me the added boost I crave on good days and the inspirational medicine I need on difficult ones. That’s why I include a “Food For Thought” with each article I write for this column.

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Let Your Dreams Emerge!

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Have you ever taken time to deeply consider the following question: “What do I desire to experience in my life?” Most of us haven’t allowed ourselves this exploration. Oh, we have a vague sense of what we in life, but few can describe their vision clearly, let alone step into it.

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The “Triple-Win” Solution: Volunteering

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I do like the good things in life. But I have come to understand that there is a far more satisfying currency than Naira, or U.S.“Benjamins.” It is called the currency of loving service.

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The Power of One Who Volunteers

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Across the board, the United Nations, National Governments, NGO’s and Non-profit organizations are realizing the essential role that volunteers play in moving communities and nations forward in their development. Consider the words of Kofi Annan, “If our hopes of building a better and safe world are to become more than wishful thinking, we will need the engagement of volunteers more than ever.

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Byron Katie and The Work

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If I told you I had found a process that could help you reduce, even eliminate, your personal suffering, would you be willing to give it a try? Today I’d like to share the insights of a woman whose life has been amazingly transformed.

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Perfect “Imperfections”

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In the heart of rural China, there lived an old woman who had two large pots. One had a crack in it; the other was perfect. Each day the woman hung each pot on one end of a pole and carried them across her neck as she made the long walk to the stream for water. Each day when she arrived home, the cracked pot would be only half full. The woman noticed but never complained.

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Focus for Success!

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Of late a theme in e-mails from my readers—business people, professionals and students—has been difficulty in concentration. Here are a couple of examples:

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Honor and Admire Your Body!

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I just took a brisk walk in my neighborhood. I am fascinated by how cooperative my body always is with me. When I say, “It’s time for a walk,” my body gets up and starts moving! When I decide that I want to sit with some friends and relax, my body is willing to do that too.

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Surround yourself with Inspired Words

  /   in Allure Therapy 12:00 am   /   Comments

Empowering, encouraging, uplifting words—a steady diet of them gives me the added boost I crave on good days and the inspirational medicine I need on difficult ones.That’s why I include a “Food For Thought” with each article I write for this column.

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Insights on Addictions

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A year ago I met a young single mother with an infant son in my neighborhood. (I’ll call them Cindy and Joey to protect their identities). In the first conversation we had, the woman opened up and shared tremendous inner pain. She had grown up in a home where both parents were drug addicts. She was abused as a child. At 20, the girl was herself an addicthard core. She asked me for help

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“Insanity Button”

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Yesterday a neighbor said to me, “My friend has been making me crazy! I don’t know what’s changed, but lately she criticizes everything I do and say and even think. I feel so attacked that I can hardly listen. I find myself cutting her off, attacking her in return. Then everything escalates. We move from issue to issue throwing darts at each other. I just don’t know what to do

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Beneath your mask

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Are you comfortable looking in the mirror? When you do, what do you see? Is it a friend? Or someone you don’t like very much, maybe even someone you are ashamed of? If your answer was self-critical, ask yourself why. What is it that dissatisfies you?

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Humbly aware of growth opportunities

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I am amazed. This article marks the beginning of my fourth year writing for Vanguard Allure magazine. Each week my goal is to share principles and ideas that will enable readers to transform their lives. I try to put these principles in practice in my own life, but I am humbly aware of my continued growth opportunities

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Be Strategic: Maximize your moments

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I ran into a college friend the otherday. On one level, she looked great. She was stylish, upbeat and professional. Yet as I listened to her, I could hear undertones of inner conflict. Over coffee she began to open up

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Is Your Heavy Load Holding You Back?

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Did you set New Year’s Resolutions? So many of us were excited to start 2011 with new energy and focus. Yet, we are into the second month of the year and for some reason, many of us aren’t making the progress we had hoped for. Could it be that there is something you aren’t aware of holding you back?

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Shine your little light!

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Each of us enters life “lit” by our Source. No matter what life has brought you or how bad you think you are, you are still light (and love) at your core. Singing this chorus, prompts me to ask myself, “Am I letting my light shine? Or, is something obscuring my innate inner glow?”

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2011: Commit to Personal Transformation

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For many years now I have been committing myself wholly to a process of inner transformation. On the one hand, it has been incredibly intense as I’ve opened to uncover painful memories and deeply-rooted belief systems. On the other hand, I am experiencing ever greater freedom, clarity and peace.

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Finding Your Wings

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How often we humans go through endless contortions to escape trials and challenges! We try to run away. We look for someone to rescue us. We pray that God will miraculously cut short the difficulty. But what if a struggle is serving some purpose? I found a surprising story recently, one that stimulated some deep thinking on this very question. See what you think. . . .

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Essential keys on the road to your dreams

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This week a reader emailed me, “I have found my life purpose. I have a clear picture of my dreams, but it is not an easy path. I feel discouraged. Some days are so difficult. What do I do?”

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Transform Your View of Others

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Mother Theresa once said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Isn’t that the truth? When we get caught up in frustration, disappointment and anger with others for the way they treat us, we have very little energy left to love. This week I’d like to focus on seeing others through

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Remedy for Insanity

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Is there a person in your life you think needs changing? Almost all of us would answer “Yes” to that question. This week several of my clients have been facing struggles with people whose attitudes, words and actions they believe need major adjustments. As I worked with them, I gained valuable clarity for myself.

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Respect: Critical Element In Relationships

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Behind the scenes each week there is a special person who helps me edit my work. She has been there since I started this column. She adds tremendous value and depth to these weekly articles. Her name is Gayle Dulcey. Gayle is one of the most highly educated people I know a former high school

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Seven Simple, Empowering Practices

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You find yourself having a “bad day.” Things are just not going right. You feel frustrated, uneasy, and even miserable. Do you have to continue to spiral further into difficulty or can you shift your energy to feel better? You have more power to think and feel well than you might yet understand. Whether we

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Mid-Year Refocus

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Just before the New Year I wrote an article asking you a question, “What is possible for you and Nigeria?” I wanted to encourage each of us to look closely at our mind set as we entered 2010. I hoped to help us clarify our commitment to creating the personal and national progress we each long for. Our mental set regarding what is or isn’t possible determines the way we spend our resources.

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Purposefully and Powerfully Shape the Next Generation

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If you have been reading my column you have heard me mention before that when zwe were children the adults in our lives (parents, teachers, pastors and others) played a major role in telling us who we are. The image of ourselves we develop and carry is based on what we were told repeatedly during our formative years.

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Are you being honest with yourself?

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Are you being honest with yourself?
I’d like us to take an even deeper look at honesty this week. We want others to be honest with us yet we often overlook one crucial factor: we forget that we often deceive others and more important we often deceive ourselves. So how can we become more honest with ourselves?

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Building a Foundation for Success

  /   in Allure, Allure Therapy 10:10 am   /   Comments

All parents want their children to become successful adults. But parental standards for measuring success can be limiting.

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What Will You Do To Make Nigeria A Great Nation?

  /   in Allure, Allure Therapy 10:46 am   /   Comments

This week I want to introduce you to four women who are serving Nigeria with passion and purpose. You may have never heard their names before.   But I felt you should know them.  Each is a change agent, a visionary of her generation. None of them seek the spotlight or recognition.  In fact, I

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Truth Sets You Free

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I have a life coaching client who suffered a stroke several years ago.  After her stroke she couldn’t walk, couldn’t talk well and didn’t look normal.  She told me that people would just stare at her, obviously questioning in their mind what had happened to her.  Yet, no one would ask about her physical challenges. 

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Notice Your Control Dramas

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We human beings are highly predictable creatures.  We want to believe that our life stories (especially the “tragic” ones) are unique.  Yet, when we look more closely we see, in general, a limited number of patterns, variations on themes. Dramas are being played out all around us every day:  parent-child, husband-wife, employer-employee, boyfriend-girlfriend, government-constituent, buyer-

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Get Clear: What do you REALLY want?

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Have you ever sat down and put in writing a detailed answer to the following question: “What do I desire to create in all aspects of my life?”Most people I encounter haven’t done this. While they may have a general sense of what they want to experience, they often couldn’t describe their vision for their

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Deepen Your Faith

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Do you feel lost in the darkness of uncertainty? Many people I encounter these days are struggling—facing layoffs, worried about the volatile world financial situation, concerned about paying their bills, dealing with difficult partners and challenging children. They feel exhausted from wrestling with their fears; their mind continually frets. How will they make it through

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