Wednesday August 20th, 2014
Wednesday August 20th, 2014
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Boarder or day student?

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:09 am   /   Comments

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Soon, schools will resume for the new session and parents will be coughing out thousands, hundreds of thousands and millions of naira in school fees, depending on where they hung their hats. In addition, parents of new entrants are going to make the critical decision whether their children should be boarders or day students.

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Youths, it’s in you

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:41 am   /   Comments

YOUNG-YOUTH

One of my problems with some social commentators is the attempt to tie the destiny of Nigerian youths to bad governance of our leaders. If any critic has issues with politicians and government officials, criticize that official; shred him/her, if you like, but do not dampen the spirit of Nigerian youths.

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Sundry financial issues for newly-weds

  /   in Marriage and Family 1:00 am   /   Comments

wedding1

Separate or Joint Accounts — Should couples have joint or separate bank accounts? This is a question I get asked often. I know some couples who operate joint bank accounts smoothly and they seem to have mastered the act. I do not have joint accounts with my wife, although we have access to each other’s money, including ATM and debit cards.

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Sundry financial issues for newly-weds

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Love1

Separate or Joint Accounts — Should couples have joint or separate bank accounts? This is a question I get asked often. I know some couples who operate joint bank accounts smoothly and they seem to have mastered the act.

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Turbulence of adolescence (2)

  /   in Marriage and Family 1:00 am   /   Comments

Islam-parent

By Francis Ewherido I often beg my children that they should not allow pollutants to contaminate their thoughts and minds; that their thoughts should be the dominant paradigm in their peer group. I also remind them that nobody in this world, except God, can love them more than their parents. In addition, I drum it

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The turbulence of adolescence (1)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:27 am   /   Comments

Oghara youths barricaded the road leading to Chief James Ibori's country home with logs of timber to prevent EFCC from arresting him. Photo: Barnabas Uzosike & Akpokona Omafuaire

The Vanguard Newspaper of July 7 and 9 carried the stories of Tolani Ajayi, a 21-year-old Redeemer’s University student, who allegedly killed his 60-year-old father, Charles Ajayi, a Senior Advocate of Nigeria, over an argument.

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Before number four (2)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:23 am   /   Comments

pregnant-woman-cartoon

Leisure: A man with a family of eight I met recently mentioned some mind-boggling figures they spend on airline tickets and accommodation when they go on vacation, especially to the United States. Many Nigerian families cannot afford that kind of vacation.

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Before number four (1)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:54 am   /   Comments

Abuja-women

Friday, July 11, 2014, is World Population Day. The day was declared in 1987 to draw attention to the world’s population growth and ensuing issues and challenges. Religious bodies, governments, the United Nations, concerned civil society groups and other relevant organisations are all firm and uniform on one issue: the need for family planning and/or population control.

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Sen. Pius Ewherido (1963-2013)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:34 am   /   Comments

Senator Ewherido

By FRANCIS EWHERHIDO Still sounds like a fairy tale and a dream although it is about a year since that tragic Sunday afternoon of June 30, 2013, when against all prayers and hope, God called you home to His bosom. I knew from that afternoon that life would be different without you, but the reality

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Cohabitation

  /   in Marriage and Family 7:44 pm   /   Comments

Marriage-Cartoon

The first time I heard the phrase “global village” was in the mid 80s. It was a vague concept then because all we had to prove it in this part of the world were air travels and restricted access to telephone which enabled a few people to reach the outside world faster. Beyond that, it was difficult to make sense of it.

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Happy father’s day, papa

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:00 am   /   Comments

President Goodluck Jonathan (4th r) leading other fathers in the presentation of a special song during the 2013 Father's Day celebration at the Aso Villa Chapel Abuja on Sunday (16/6/13).

I write to wish my father, Joseph Ewherido, a happy Father’s Day, which comes up tomorrow. even though I know he may not really need it.

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Who is a wife?

  /   in Marriage and Family 11:18 pm   /   Comments

File: *President Goodluck Jonathan and his wife at 2013 PDP Special National Convention . Photo by Gbemiga Olamikan.

My personal struggles and imperfections notwithstanding, I hold very strong views on sexuality, molded mainly by my conservative Christian orientation. But I have also come to accept that we live in a free and secular world, and I therefore must tolerate contrary views and tendencies.

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Parents are not priority

  /   in Marriage and Family 1:13 am   /   Comments

parents

I have an exercise I always conduct in my pre-marriage class. I normally ask the participants if their parents are still alive. If the answer is yes, I will ask if their parents have health challenges, faulty or old cars, leaking roofs or broken walls or other problems the parents need money to solve. Normally, they also answer “yes”.

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Letting go, interference, intervention

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:05 am   /   Comments

Baby-mother

Parents bring children into the world, nurture them, see them through school and then there comes a time when they must let go of their children to chart their own future. What that time should be is still a matter of opinion.

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Wedding anniversary reflections

  /   in Marriage and Family 9:06 pm   /   Comments

2Face, Annie

Thursday,May 15,was my 15th wedding anniversary. My civil marriage and traditional marriage predate my church wedding, but I prefer the church wedding as my milestone.

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World family day

  /   in Marriage and Family 8:02 pm   /   Comments

Ekwe, his late wife and son

Thursday, May 15, is World Family Day, a global initiative by the United Nations General Assembly to draw attention to the various problems facing the family. While I commend UN for this initiative, conservatives and religious institutions will continue to view the UN with suspicion because of its stand on the family as an “institution with no relatively fixed definition.”

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Wife versus mother

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:51 am   /   Comments

preg-women

There is a question that used to get me really irritated:“If you,your wife and your mother are in a boat and the boat is sinking and you can only save one person, who will you save, your wife or your mother?” I get irritated because I feel it is an unnecessary assumption meant to cause disaffection.

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Are house helps necessary or necessarily evil? (2)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:05 am   /   Comments

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You should enhance the lives of your house helps, especially since it will likely reflect in the quality of care they give your children.

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Are house helps necessary (Necessarily)evil?(1)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:33 am   /   Comments

The accused David who beheaded Mrs. Funmilayo Temehin a rtd Senior Magistrate with cutlass at Laderin Housing Estate Abeokuta Friday being over powered PHOTO BY WUMI AKINOLA

On March 27, 2014, a house help, simply identified as David, killed and beheaded his former boss, a 65-year-old retired Chief Magistrate, Olufunmilayo Timeyin, at her residence in Ogun State.

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The baby doom

  /   in Marriage and Family 7:41 pm   /   Comments

ondo-baby-factory

A few weeks ago, yet another illegal baby-making factory was discovered in Akute, Ogun State. Eight pregnant girls, among them three under-aged girls, were found. What started as a hush-hush affair has become a monumental national embarrassment and huge moral burden.

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Happy Mother’s Day, Mama

  /   in Marriage and Family 6:07 pm   /   Comments

Abuja-women

A section of Christendom celebrates Mother’s Day tomorrow, and I crave your indulgence to pay tribute to my mother.

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International Women’s Day (2)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:16 am   /   Comments

INT'L WOMEN'S DAY—Rally to mark International Women's Day yesterday in Lagos. Photo: NAN

What I have found out is that we are very chauvinistic. Forget about the “daddy’s girl” stuff you see or hear about.

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Re: International Women’s Day (1)

  /   in Marriage and Family 5:39 pm   /   Comments

Abuja-women

Last Saturday the world celebrated the International Women’s Day with pomp and pageantry. Wonderful; but what about the continued dehumanization and degradation of the womenfolk? What about girl-child discrimination in our society?

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Budget wedding (2)

  /   in Marriage and Family 5:45 pm   /   Comments

Mass-wedding

Unbudgeted Expenditure:Do not allow anybody to force you into expenditure you did not budget for. This is one of the reasons why would-be couples go borrowing. I always advise that if a family member or friend is not comfortable with your arrangements and wants adjustments which will increase your expenditure, that person must bring the extra money needed to alter the arrangements. If not, the original plan stays.

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Still on courtship

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:30 am   /   Comments

love22

A few weeks ago in this column, I wrote: “Both parties (courting) should submit to a thorough medical check up to know their health status: blood group, genotype, HIV status, presence of other sexually transmitted diseases, potency, fertility, etc…” I want to expatiate in view of a few messages, comments and incidents since then.

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Budget Wedding (1)

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:00 am   /   Comments

*Some of the brides

Increasingly, a lot of young men are entering their late 30s and early 40 and are still single. One of the reasons for the delay, according to them, is “lack of finance.”

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Grass widowhood

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:30 am   /   Comments

Love1

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. While many of us were celebrating and getting busy with our spouses, some others did not for reasons ranging from separation to widowhood. However, my focus today is on grass widowhood (spouses temporarily living apart). Grass widowhood is a phenomenon that has been with us but has changed in nomenclature. In the 80s, as our economy took a downturn, one of the spouses travelled abroad to seek the proverbial greener pastures and remitted money home for the family. Not all of these adventures went according to plan: Some of the men ended up marrying foreigners to regularise their stay, while some wives saw the “better life” abroad and made their temporary sojourn permanent. Either way their marriages and families were the main casualties.

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Still on courtship

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:10 am   /   Comments

Peter and Lola after the 'Yes'

A few weeks ago in this column, I wrote: “Both parties (courting) should submit to a thorough medical check up to know their health status: blood group, genotype, HIV status, presence of other sexually transmitted diseases, potency, fertility, etc…” I want to expatiate in view of a few messages, comments and incidents since then.

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The favourite child syndrome

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:13 am   /   Comments

family-planning-pix

In my young mind in those days(over 40 years ago), I often wondered how parents concluded that this child was their favourite. My confusion was the fact that my parents did not show favouritism towards any of us, so I had no first-hand experience to fall back on. It was simply and always a case of who was right or wrong, who needed what, and whose needs were more urgent at any point. These were the criteria that determined where the pendulum swung.

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Happy spouse day

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:17 am   /   Comments

*Mide Martins and husband

Tomorrow, January 26, is Spouse day. Spouse day is a day set aside to celebrate and honour our spouses. It is a day we should not only tell our spouses we appreciate them, but show them we do. If there is one major complaint married people have against their spouses, it is being taken for granted and unappreciated by spouses. Spouse day offers us the opportunity to prove to our spouses that we treasure them.

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How to overcome fear of marriage

  /   in Marriage and Family 12:41 am   /   Comments

love22

With divorce rates being what they are , tying the knot might seem more intimidating than ever. However, by understanding what marriage entails and clarifying your expectations, you can overcome your nuptial-phobia and make an informed decision on whether or not to get married.

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Are you in abusive relationship ?

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Are you in an abusive relationship which restricts your freedom and independence? Are you well equipped with information on how to recognise when your partner becomes abusive?

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