Once; he actually gave a date, flight number and airline, I went to the airport with the children, my sister and her husband and a younger brother of his too, we waited after confirming that the flight was actually coming to Nigeria, but you won’t believe that my husband was not on that flight, he’d merely fooled us all

Though, even back in the olden days, the act is usually received with mixed feelings among diverse people. However, with the era of male supremacy gradually fading out, and more women gaining financial and educational leverage, many, including men, now see wife battering as an attack and abuse of the supposedly weaker sex. Add to this is the enactment of laws by at various levels of government in the country against domestic violence, some of which attract stiff penalties if found guilty of.

The misunderstanding was between me and my brother-in-law, the last born of the family. It would have been a minor incident but for the way it was handled. However, it was the quarrel that opened my eyes and made me aware of the kind of people I lived with. Most of all, that my mother-in-law was not the person I took her to be.

None however has been able to tell me what they would do except to slap him back. I realize I am just postponing the evil day by not making up my mind as regards the proposal with Layi. I can have all that any woman may desire from a marriage, material wise that is.

He kept on lamenting that I had disgraced him in front of everybody and that he will deal with me. I shouted back at him to come out and deal with me. I just didn’t know what got into my head that night.

Lizzy, (30), a Secretary narrates how she was also harassed by the Personnel Manager of a company where she went job hunting when she first arrived Lagos. She concludes her story below as Bimpe, another respondent takes over:

I was the first to find my tongue, and so I told him it would depend on him and the company. So, he said he has discovered a way to help him make up his mind. That he would need us to help him out. Since whoever gets the job depends on him, and both of us were qualified, the one willing to sleep with him will get the job!

Before now, I had heard rumours concerning her exploits with young men, and I did my best to be careful. So I guarded against being a prey to her whenever the time arose. I prayed also and believed God was in control.

The issue of sexual harassment is not a new one to the ears, it is a thing that has been in existence in our society since ages past, despite the fact that we try to sweep it under the carpet. My case is not quite different from those of others, its just that I am a guy and lot of people feel it is quite unusual My name is Daniel, a 27 year old. I am very handsome and well cultured and goal driven. My sexual harassment began when I got employed in the firm I did my youth service.

I was afraid he would fail me if I turned him down. I would have no one to report him to because I have no witness to corroborate any story I tell. Besides, we are told that most of the lecturers who engage in this dastardly act operate a cartel of sort. All they need to do is ask a colleague to fail one in order to take the blame or suspicion off their shoulders.

It all started shortly after we began taking his course. He would go on and on about our dressing, picking some of us out of the crowd. I was his first casualty, nothing I did seems to please him. One day he told me to see him after the end of the lecture in his office. He said he wanted to ask me a few things and advise me on how to go about life. It was a big lie.

Even the most powerful or wealthy woman will still fall at the altar of love. Most of us, will do the most foolish things when it comes to matters of the heart. Many of us would take the most ridiculous of risks, just to prove our love. And many will also make the grievous sacrifices, including family and friends, just to remain in love.

Some who eagerly rush into it, do so because they have the assurance that their wives or their wives families can conveniently pick the bills, and they will not be affected in any way. This is the major reason why a lot of men commit all sorts of things in order to get money to buy cars, build houses and acquire other properties of their choice before even thinking of getting married.

There is a Yoruba adage that says that you cannot hide your nakedness from the person that will bath your body after your demise. So, whenever you remember that neither of you is complete without the other, then, you’ll know there is no point keeping secrets. It’s like running from your own shadow. Doing that can only mean that you have some hidden agenda. And that is dangerous for any relationship.