Lost a spouse, how long is it right to mourn?

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With FLORENCE AMAGIYA

Marriage is an institution ordained by the Almighty God. It is such that a man leaves his father and mother’s house and the woman does the same thing too. They start a unit together excluding everyone. The institution is built on trust and commitment. And it terminates when one party dies.

The time for mourning the late spouse is determined by the survived spouse and also determined by the relationship they both had when the spouse was alive. How long is good enough to mourn someone you have loved before moving on?

According to a certain person ‘Mourning borders around selfish emotion expressed by those left behind by the deceased. The emotions only serve as a way of holding on to the departed.

I personally think mourning should last for twenty four hours. Mourning a loved one longer than that will only keep the spirit here longer than necessary”. They deserve to be set free, they are going to a better place…”

Hear what our celebrities and Nigerians have to say

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Nkem-Ike

It depends…

Nkem Ike, Actress

No one prays to lose a love one, but death is inevitable. You cannot tell when it will pay a visit; we all pray to be ready and to be at the right age. Personally, I will mourn my loved one and if the relationship l had with him was super close. It means it will take a long while for me to recover. But if my husband was nasty then my days of mourning won’t be that long.

As long as healthy

Okechukwu Ifeanyi, Movie Director

Okechukwu-Ifeanyi

It is not a written law any where how you should mourn. It is something you know you should do. I will consider my feelings for my late wife and that will serve as base for consideration.

If she was everything to me then I will mourn her long. But at a point I will move on because she is no more and perhaps there are children to be taken care of. Only the living can take care of the living.

I will live for the sake of our memories together and our children because she would do the same thing too.

Ten percent ok

Lisa-Onu

Lisa Onu, Actress

I will advise any woman to give the memory of her late husband ten percent of the years actually spent with him. Personally, I will mourn such person until l am able to date again without feeling guilt.

Two months ideal

Johannes-Maier

Johannes Maier, Actor

I don’t think it is a healthy situation to mourn more than necessary. Personally if I lose a spouse to death, I will mourn her and our memory together for two months. After that, l will begin a new life. The Bible talked about the dead burying the dead. I am alive, so l should be thinking about life and living and not the dead.

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