Re: The problem of shame and guilt in CSA

By Princess Olufemi – Kayode

Sexual Abuse of children is grossly increasing in reportage and  more children are facing the inevitable consequences. Child sexual abuse is an especially complicated form of abuse because of its layers of guilt and shame. It’s important to recognize as this column has discussed many a time, that sexual abuse doesn’t always involve body contact.

Exposing a child to sexual situations or material is sexually abusive, whether or not touching is involved.

While news stories of sexual predators are scary, what is even more frightening is that sexual abuse usually occurs at the hands of someone the child knows and should be able to trust—most often close relatives and people in a position of authority over the child and whom the child and family trust.

And contrary to what many believe, it’s not just girls who are at risk. Boys and girls both suffer from sexual abuse. In fact, sexual abuse of boys may be underreported due to shame and stigma.

Aside from the physical damage that sexual abuse can cause, the emotional component is powerful and far-reaching for children.

Sexually abused children are tormented by shame and guilt. They may feel that they are responsible for the abuse or somehow brought it upon themselves. This can lead to self-loathing and sexual problems as they grow older—often either excessive promiscuity or an inability to have intimate relations.

The history of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) has been linked to increased risk for long-term consequences on the lives of survivors (e.g., Adams-Tucker, 1982; Briere & Runtz, 1988; Brooks, 1983; Browne & Finkelhor, 1986; Peters, 1988; Spaccarelli, 1994; Trickett & Putnam, 1993). For example, CSA survivors are more likely to experience PTSD related symptoms such as moments of increased arousal and extreme affective reactivity and, alternatively, a general predisposition toward numbing of responsiveness including feelings and affects (American Psychiatric Association [APA], 1994).

The shame of sexual abuse makes it very difficult for children to come forward. They may worry that others won’t believe them, will be angry with them, or that it will split their family apart.

Because of these difficulties, false accusations of sexual abuse are not common, so if a child confides in you, PLEASE kindly take him or her seriously. Don’t turn a blind eye!

Contributed by Kayode Abiodun  Gabriel,  a  Mass Communication 200 Level Student of Ajayi Crowther University, Oyo.