By Wahab Abdulah
â€œI have tried my best for this man over the years.Â Â I am convinced that he is not ready for me as his wife, that is why he is always looking outside… â€ That exactly was the statement ofÂ an aggrieved house wife who is seeking dissolution ofÂ her marriage at Alakuko Customary Court.
Mrs. Olubunmi Olabiyi, 36, stunned the customary court last weekÂ when she said that her husband denied her sex.Â She blamed their marital problem on theÂ size ofÂ her husbandâ€™s manhood and his attitude to sex.
According to her, she marriedÂ Mr Sunday Olabiyi, two years ago, but he never satisfied her sexually.
She said jokingly that what can save the relationship from collapse was for the husband to have enough time with her and also perform very well in bed . She told the court that she was not ready to commit adultery that was why she decided to approach the court.
According to her, her husband also annoyed her by going after little girls despite the fact that she has been managing his inadequacies and other problemsÂ with maturity.
Revealing how they met, she said her husband met her through one ofÂ her friends who was also her neighbour. She said that the neighbour was from her husbandâ€™s home town, Ikire in Osun State. She confessed to the court that the major problem she had with her husband was his nonchalant attitude to her welfare and his inability to satisfy her sexually.
She also accused him of â€œlooking outside rather than inside.â€
Asked, if it was not her inadequacies that made the man to start looking elsewhere, she responded that she hadÂ Â always tried to do her best at homeÂ by â€œcooking good food for him and takingÂ good care ofÂ himâ€.
She said that she had tried other options especially local medics to make her husband improve in sexual performance but all to no avail.
She asked for the dissolution ofÂ the marriage and that her husband should pay for her resettlement.
Responding, Mr Olabiyi told the court that it was only hisÂ wife who canÂ tell the court, how best one can perform in bed. According to him, he never denied his wife sex whenever she asked for it. Besides, he saidÂ that heÂ always took good care of his wife, including buying her clothes and feeding. He accused her of â€œhaving a hidden agenda.â€Â He said she had made up her mind to abandon him for another man.Â The courtÂ Â fixed April 23, 2010 for judgement.
HeÂ beats me with horsewhipâ€
A middle-aged housewife, Mrs Sherifat Adegoke has informed an Alimosho Grade â€˜Bâ€™ Customary Court, Lagos how her husband, Mr. Kazeem Adegoke has turned her into a punching bag. Narrating her ordeal, the aggrieved woman said her hubby takes delight in beating her silly with horsewhip (â€˜Koboko) at any slight mistake. TheÂ petty trader stated that her husband always reacted violently whenever she asked him why he got home late.
She also accused her husband ofÂ having an affairÂ with the daughters ofÂ their landlord, and it annoys her.
She alleged that her husband encouragedÂ her to make friends with their landlordâ€™s daughters, for him to capitalise on it and befriend one of them.
Mrs Adegoke claimed she was ignorant ofÂ her husbandâ€™s motive until she met one ofÂ the girls in her bedroom discussing with her husband . She said she became furious and challenged them, butÂ her husband and the lady, Joke pounced on her . She said: â€œWhat really baffled me was that the lady joined him in beating me and he used the horsewhip he bought on meâ€.
Sherifat who resides at 73, Abeokuta expressway, Adealu told the courtÂ that she met her husband in 2008 and they got married in 2009. Their union according to her was blessed with two children. She told the court thatÂ since she got married to Adegoke, she has never enjoyed peace, â€œespecially now that the landlordâ€™s daughter had hijacked him from me.â€
SheÂ claimed that her husbandÂ started to beat her with belt, but later graduated to horsewhip. He always got angryÂ whenever she asked him for money to take care ofÂ the family.Â Â She however urged the court to dissolve the marriage and grant her custody of the children since her husband had chosen to fall in love with the landlordâ€™s daughter.
In his defence, Adegoke,42,who hails from Ibese, Egbado, Ogun StateÂ denied all the allegations and explained that he did not buy the horsewhip purposely for his wife, but to checkmate his colleagues who always playedÂ pranks on him.
Adegoke claimed that he had never given his wife problems, but it was the woman that made the matrimonial home uncomfortable for herself.