Hi, Ever imaginedÂ what the ground would look like should two Elephants fight as a saying goes? Not very pretty I think. Then, take this other scenario. Imagine what would happen when things fall apart between two very close women who once did almost everything together. Worse than the joint efforts of two elephants I can bet! How about when two men quarrel?
Is it a fact that the fall out or differences between men are never as deep and disastrous as those between women? Well, this is what we will be looking at in this issue, beginning from this edition.
The first piece you will be reading is a set of two stories as told by two erstwhileÂ friends. I met these two women at a cousinâ€™s place where they had been summoned to a peace meeting in an attempt to settle the differences between them.
I donâ€™t want to pass any comment before you read what they both had to say.
One of the two women, who claimed to be the aggrieved, had come separately before now to state her side of the matter to my cousin.
They were subsequently invited together which coincided with the day I was visiting. Though as an on-looker, I was invited intermittently to express my views, but at the end of the day, we could only advice that they both try to renew their friendship and forget all that had transpired, because my cousin and I were confused and short for words.
Please read, make up your mind and share your thoughts with us. Our address remains: The Human Angle, Vanguard, P.M.B.1007, Apapa, Lagos. And e-mail address: email@example.comÂ Cheers!!
Tessa, (39), Civil Servant, who is accusing her best friend of envy and betrayal, concludes her story below:
. That is not to mention the people I have been opportune to meet through him.
It is things like these that I have been telling her that she should be looking for in relationships.
But she will never listen.
She loves going out with men who are not worth the bother. Many of them donâ€™t even give her anything tangible, instead, she spends her own money on them. Whenever I ask that we buy something together, she will always have one excuse or another.
The standard one is that she has no money. How can she have money when all her money goes into irrelevant ventures? How much can she make from a boutique, or how much can her husband give her?
I have tried to fix her up with better men, but they never like her. Is that my fault? She doesnâ€™t have the luck for men like I have. Ask her if it is a lie. Once, Kabiyesi threw a party. I invited her with three other friends who wanted boyfriends. Everyone of them caught a man friend each, but my friend did not find any suitable man. Am I to blame for that?
She doesnâ€™t know that I have spies in her shop who give me full details of what she does there. She has a new boyfriend who has entered her system, so she canâ€™t reason properly anymore.
I was told by my spies that they were discussing my affairs at the boutique over a bottle of Stout. Can you imagine? Maybe she was drunk then, because I still find it difficult to believe.
All I want is that, you should warn her for me. If she wants to go her own way, let her do so without going around to spoil my name. I know that I am not so lucky when it comes to having a loving and caring husband. But I am grateful to God for giving me the luck to have the love of my boyfriends. They swarm around me like bees and I am only trying to do her a favour. If she doesnâ€™t want it anymore, she can go. This is my own side of the story.
Bianca, (36), Business woman, refuted her friendâ€™s allegations and insists she is only protecting her home. She states her side of the problem:
Contrary to what she has said, the whole problem started the day my husband and I met her at a party with one of her lovers. We had both planned to attend the party together, but along the line, other things came up and I had to go somewhere with my husband first, on that same day.
We therefore decided to meet there later in the day. Please ask her if she toldÂ me that she would be attending the party with a friend?
In fact, she shouldnâ€™t have gone there with someone at all. You see, the people hosting this party were family friends to both our families. They used to live in our neighbourhood until a few months back when they parked to their own house. Common sense ought to have informed her that we were bound to meet people who would know us at such a gathering, including people from the neighbourhood. So, I never expected any funny games from her.
As I said, my husband and I had to attend an impromptu meeting somewhere earlier in the day. Our plan had been to return home from our outing, then, I could attend those peopleâ€™s party later in the day.
But when we could not leave the meeting on time for what we agreed on earlier, my husband decided we should attend the party together. I never planned that we should spend such a long time at the place, so everything that happened was not under my control.
And so, when my husband suggested that we bothÂ make a stop over at the party together since they were his friends too, I didnâ€™t know how to turn him down.
Moreover, I had make him to understand that it was a â€œmustâ€ that I should be at the party, even if it was for just a few minutes. So, it was a surprise when we got to the party and I saw her in the company of one of her boyfriends.
As soon as I saw them, I knew it would be dangerous to share the same table with them because anything can happen. I did not want my husband suspecting her of any hanky-panky, so I led my husband to another area of the party to seat with some other friends. Even despite this, my husband and I went over to greet them and I also went to her on two other occasions.
What more could I have done under the circumstance. If she had informed me earlier that she was planning to leave her matrimonial home, then I would have known what to do and even helped her to hasten things up. And please help me tell her, if that is her plans, I have no plans to leave my own family and so cannot do something as foolishly bold as bringing my lover to a party that I know many familiar faces will attend.