Hi, Ever imaginedÂ what the ground would look like should two Elephants fight as a saying goes? Not very pretty I think. Then, take this other scenario. Imagine what would happen when things fall apart between two very close women who once did almost everything together. Worse than the joint efforts of two elephants I can bet! How about when two men quarrel?
Is it a fact that the fall out or differences between men are never as deep and disastrous as those between women? Well, this is what we will be looking at in this issue, beginning from this edition.
The first piece you will be reading is a set of two stories as told by two erstwhileÂ friends. I met these two women at a cousinâ€™s place where they had been summoned to a peace meeting in an attempt to settle the differences between them.
I donâ€™t want to pass any comment before you read what they both had to say.
One of the two women, who claimed to be the aggrieved, had come separately before now to state her side of the matter to my cousin. They were subsequently invited together which coincided with the day I was visiting. Though as an on-looker, I was invited intermittently to express my views, but at the end of the day, we could only advice that they both try to renew their friendship and forget all that had transpired, because my cousin and I were confused and short for words.
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Tessa, (39), Civil Servant, is accusing her best friend of envy and betrayal:
I donâ€™t have much to say about the whole matter. All I want you to do for me is to warn her to stop chasing after me. I know she is planning some evil or misfortune for me, but my God will not allow her to succeed. She is not my friend. I have noticed this through her behaviour before now, but now, I have confirmed it and I know she is after my life.
If not because of the gift of dreams that God gave me, I might not have been able to detect her plans for me. I believe so much in my dreams because all the important ones have always come true so far. I have seen her three times in separate dreams.
Once, I saw her discussing with people that I donâ€™t talk to anymore. She knows I donâ€™t, and I have told her to steer clear of them if she wants to remain my friend. So, if she is my friend, why was she with my enemies in my dream.
The second time, she was chasing me with a stick and shouting my name. I donâ€™t know what she said I did to her in the dream, but I saw myself running away from her. The third time, we were fighting each other. And when I fight with someone in my dream, it is a bad omen.
That is why I have come to report her to you. In fact, when I heard that you have come to Nigeria on holidays, I was very happy because I donâ€™t want you to hear about our quarrel in America. It is because you are very fond of her that I have come to report this case to you. If it were to be someone else that is doing what she is doing to me, I know what I would do to the person.
Please donâ€™t be annoyed, you must take things easy. What is the actual problem, what is her offence? I asked.
Thank you Aunty, you too can help us judge this matter, after all, you are a woman. We have been good friends now for almost five years, at least, since they moved to this neighbourhood. We do things together and everyone knows we are good friends.
Your sister can attest to this. I loved her like a sister and I believe she loved me too. But her behaviour of recent times have opened my eyes to the fact that she is not a true friend after all. She has not been as loyal with me as I have been with her. There is nothing I have not done to show her how much I love her, but she still goes around stabbing me in the back everywhere I turn.
Please, ask her if I have not allowed my boyfriend to make love with me in her presence before. We took her out with us and made love in the same room with her. What more can I do for my friend? My secrets are with her, I have hidden nothing from her. Maybe this is why she is behaving like this with me.
It is my house which is still under construction that has caused all this problems oh. She is jealous of my success. You canâ€™t believe that as close as we claim to be, she does not know the site of the house I am building in my home town.
Last year, when we went to lay the foundation for the construction, we had a small service and light entertainment for the guests. I didnâ€™t even know that people do this sort of thing before then. It was suggested to me by some friends at my office.
They said I must do it that it is like committing the project into Godâ€™s hands. When I informed her, she too agreed that it was a good idea. But you canâ€™t believe that she did not help me with the preparations at all.
On the said day, my best friend did not show up until late in the evening when the whole thing was almost over and many of the guests had left. She stayed up for sometime and later demanded for a bed to sleep. Her excuse was that she had a rough time with her car on the way to my home town as she didnâ€™t have a driver. The next day, she didnâ€™t even bother to ask me to take her to the location until she left. Up till today, ask my friend if she knows the place.
Is it my fault that she doesnâ€™t have money to build a house of her own? Or is it my fault that she doesnâ€™t have enough boyfriends to attend to her needs? I have four boyfriends right now and she knows all of them. One of them is an Oba, though of a small town in Epe, Lagos state.
She complained that she did not like my relationship with him. Ok, now that I think of it, maybe this was actually where the problems started. She calls him Oba jegejege, but I know that even if he is not a first class Oba or very rich, he has the name and personality to command respect. Even in his so-called wretchedness according to her, oh, I know the things I have gained through his assistance. As regards the house I am building, he has assisted me with several Tippers of gravel and sand.