Comments on: Do you support pregnancy before marriage?

By: Sima

Sima — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:26:28 +0000

To each its own! Love exists between two individuals, and only they know the truth to what they have, whether the society knows of it or not, it’s their business and their relationship, so if “they” as a couple think it’s okay to have a child without being married—go for it! I personally do believe in marriage and I also would prefer to have a child being married but that’s just my own view and it does not make it better or worse than anyone else’s view. As long as you have a commitment with each other, whether its marriage, engagement, live in, or boy friend/girlfriend, it’s perfectly fine. It’s unfortunate that marriages are not guaranteed, even though the vows clearly state “till death do us part”, it’s just the reality. So at that point should the parent throw away their child because they are no longer married? Clearly not, so what difference does it make? Maybe the society should focus on how individuals are having children when they should not regardless if they are married or not!

By: Bakpo Famous H.

Bakpo Famous H. — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 10:30:28 +0000

Being pregnant before marriage can not be entirely condemned since it is the true test for both potency on the male side and barrenness on the side of the female. What is needed is child first, then other ( love) follows. Without child( children) in the family, no love can exist. So, I strongly support pregnancy before marriage.

By: sac

sac — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 18:37:14 +0000

I dont support pregnany or sex before marriage but if I see someone that is pregnant outside marriage, I do not crucify such people as well. The day I stopped crucifying people that get pregnant outside marraiage was the day a colleague told my his finance was pregnant and had to have an abortion because it would be a thing of shame for him as he is an elder in the church. I was so disgusted. That made me realise the numberof abortions(murders) that are commited all the name of my church does not allow pregnant women to marry in the church.
For the pastors that insist that they cant join a pregnant woman to her partner, who are they to judge-if i have sinned and begged God for forgiveness and he has pardoned me, but still accepts/feels i should take the child to the altar? who is a pastor to say I cant be joined in the church
To me getting pregnant is not the sin, it is sex that is actually the sin.

By: Gandoki

Gandoki — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 14:51:39 +0000

Thank you guys. The way things are going, one begins to wonder if people will not give birth to children before actually getting pregnant.

By: femi adebayo

femi adebayo — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 14:17:35 +0000

Whosoever that mutted the idea never love and should not be trusted. It is ungodly, disgusting and uncivilize.

I know many things are depreciating including marriage.

By: Uwadiae Sly

Uwadiae Sly — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 12:24:19 +0000

The sanctity of the marriage institution has been bastardized! I have no blame for anybody who spells out any condition before marriage. Nowadays, people wed ladies in church with their up to three or more former lovers in attendance to congratulate the groom for celebrating permanent attachement to what they have discarded. Worse still, some of these affairs continue after marriage!

If a man has clearly defined what he wants from marriage, and he wants pregnancy before marriage, so be it! But if he fails to marriage the girl after pregnancy and possibly delivery, he has just committed another kind of evil. And what is special?

The onus rests on the lady to assess the risk and take it if worths it.

By: Daniel Gashua

Daniel Gashua — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 10:19:00 +0000

My namesake may God Bless you for that response, thats a very stupid idea i dont think a normal human being should have that though. marrying to a woman should primarily be for love sake, the babies are secondary issues.

Gashua
Nyala – Sudan

By: Daniel

Daniel — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 07:40:32 +0000

That is a very stupid idea.what if the child dies after birth and the woman does not take in again.I think the best thing is to trust in God cos He is the giver of child.He gives in his own time.