Comments on: Safe sex: who is responsible (2)

By: Okey Ernest Opara

Okey Ernest Opara — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 08:31:58 +0000

LOL, Phil is grandstanding which is usual with most Nigerians. No contributor had advocated for extra-marital indulgence. At best what I see here is that contributors are relating to the question based on who they are and their convictions. It is better for you to make your point and move on. I merely responded to the contributors’ comments on the day I read it about some four months ago, not on the question directly.

I would listen if you try to persuade me to incline to a superior argument based on wisdom, experience and faith. A dead man killed by HIV/Aids ceases to enjoy sex. So, would it not be to your advantage to heed the advice to abstain? To those who would not abstain, is there no preventive measures no matter how fallible they may be? There are virgins out there who have contacted various forms of sexually transmitted diseases. There are innocent people out there who have been infected with HIV/Aids through means other than sexual.

For the avoidance of doubt, my position is: if unmarried abstain, if married, stick to your partner. This advice has nothing more to do with religion than it is with tradition. We don’t have to invoke religion to do the right things. Doing right in any society should be taken for granted even though there are nonconformists. I have a problem with people who would always invoke religion in order to be believed. If you have credibility your word is enough evidence for you to be believed.

By: chidun

chidun — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:34:59 +0000

my own its that is there realy what is called safe sex as we say because idont agree that there is an act of safe sex because as a microbiologist ibelieve strong in this.people should get it right because nothing on earth is safe if not God.so the world we live is unsafe so therefore the things in it.however,we should call for something less than safe not perfect.anyway its time we talk about sex management than safe sex.i suppose its better.then in this theme i can say the religous body whether church or mosque should first start the education of this theme then schools,trading places and public/private offices.here all about theme should be discussed without reservations of any kind because the act those not reserve its proceedings.with this everyone young old wil know what to do and what not to do.But when not discussed openly life will continue to be in shades on this SEX ISSUE.its a gift God gave to us for reproducing. so should be managed not abused.because human resources including animals should be be managed by one anothet so should be sex rather than safed.thanks chidun Uniben

By: Sharafadeen A

Sharafadeen A — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:47:58 +0000

Safe sex: who is responsible?
Reading through the introduction and what the two contributors. It is done on me that most people terms “Safe Sex” is indulged in protective sex mainly through the been faithful to one’s partner or the use of condom thus refers to as ABC of HIV/AIDS.
The first contributor talks of his sexual life as observing the “B” been faithful and his not observing “C” because of shyness in purchasing of condom (as unmarried). But has he ever considered his action of sexuality as unmarried religiously? This is how youths were seduced into fornication and adultery in the name of safe sex, because most people see it as normal and were influenced as such.
As for the second contributor made a very good presentation of facts statistically which all readers can ponder upon. In his contribution, it was found that sex before marriage leads to depression.
This is because two there is no two difference sexual acts (with two difference person) that generates same experience. The call enjoyment are all varies from one another. Another point is that, whenever the mind goes back to each urge incidence the guilt of mind sets in. Most cases, when eventually married and not getting the usually sexual satisfaction depression sets in and if care is not taken a revisit to the past is likely. Not all those who practice the so call “safe Sex” before marriage always ends up marrying each other, therefore you’ll become furious at the presence of your ex especially for the women who end up felling the “used and dump” syndrome.
Another point he drawn was television programme that contains safe sex where it watchers are more likely to practice sex before marriage as normal more so, that Condom does not really protects one from STI/STD. Researches had found out that condom do not 100% protect one from these scourge of STD/HIV because if may fail due to some certain reasons e.g. it misused or expired. It should be known that it take a lot o self discipline to be observing the use of condom for every sexual intercourse whereby abstinence required more less discipline to be actualised.
My advice to the youth and those who indulge in sex before marriage is that they should know that it is a major sin. Both in the Bible where it was said that “thou shall not commit adultery” in Exodus 20:14, Leviticus etc and even in the New testament where it was reported that Jesus said Moses said onto you ye shall not commit adultery, But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his hear” Mat 5:27-28.

The Quran states that “say (O! Muhammad) The thisng my Lord has indeed forbidden are al-Fawahish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc) be it openly or secretly…” Quran 7:33, “…and do not draw near al-Fawahish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc) be it openly or secretly…”Quran 6:151 and “Do not draw near Zina (fornication and adultery) for it is an indecent act and it ways is evil Quran 17:32. and various hadith reported the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) stating the benefits of sex within marriage such as “if one of you had intercourse with his wives it is counted as charity (will be rewarded) for him (and her), thereupon someone inquire that will they be rewarded for doing what they like doing (sex). The Prophet then said wouldn’t they be punished if they do it illegally (committing fornication or adultery)…” and he states it evil of fornication and adultery in both physical and spiritual point of view – Physical – carrying out the prescribed punishment on the culprits (100 lashes for unmarried and stoning to death of married offenders), it bring about various forms of incurable infectious diseases such as HIV/AIDS, and other STD which rendered some people sterile, spiritual – one single act ruin once sincere act of ibadat (act of worship) worth of 30 years or 70 years.
Safe sex: the ball is in the doer court. If one like he/she should takes to the right guidance of the Almighty the creator Allah or he/she takes to evil deception of the Devil aimed at ruin once life in this world and hereafter. Certainly Allah have not put any (real) enjoyment in evils. He who found enjoyment or pleasure in what Allah has not placed enjoyment therein is sick in his/her heart.

By: Phil

Phil — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:35:25 +0000

All the preventive measures mentioned in the above write-up cannot offer 100% safety to anybody intending to indulge in safe sex, the only measure i can reccomend for anybody that is clamoring for a safe sex is to stick to ones spouse when married and practise abstinence if you are unmarried.

I know that alot of people would think that i am not part of this world by suggesting abstinence to the unmarried, but believe it or not it is possible all you need is a little bit of determination that’s all.
Oops…forgot to say great post! Looking forward to your next one.

By: James Kpanto

James Kpanto — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:29:44 +0000

Thanks to Phil for you response. I totally agree with you that the best and only safe sex is commitment to one spouse for the married and abstinence to the unmarried.
Many will disagree with this view and of cause they will pay dearly, some with their lives for disagreeing with our maker who gave us above injunctions as a guide for our good.

By: Phil

Phil — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:49:51 +0000